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hikari izumi
on 06-27-2012 at 04:48 AM (170 Views)
a few days ago i was talking to my friend and he asked me how i felt and i told him i was really miserable and had not felt that bad in years (i recently lost a friend that i had a really good bond with well at least that's what i thought)i was on the verge of tears by this point and feeling hopeless and helpless (we all feel like that at some point in our lives so no im not being an emo cry baby ok ?)i just really needed a shoulder to cry on to be honest yet that was the last thing i got. my friend instead of offering words of comfort proceeded to scold me telling me that he didn't need this sh#t and that he was sick of helping people which made me feel less than dirt.

to be honest it really hurt me for him to say that i know that it can be annoying to have someone whining about their problems but all i wanted was for someone to just listen to me does that make me such a selfish person ? i could never scold someone for coming to me with a problem they have especially if they were hurting or upset so why does my friend think he has the right to do that to me when i have spent countless days and nights talking to him when he had problems is it so wrong that i want the same support that i have given ?i haven't spoken to that friend in a few days and to be honest i don't really want to speak to him i really don't need to be scolded like a naughty child again when i wanted as a little help and understanding.
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  1. musikalles's Avatar
    musikalles - 06-28-2012 02:08 AM
    What you need is not a crime, and if someone makes you feel like you don't deserve their aid, they are the wrong person for the job.

    Trying to see from his point of view, well, he said he's tired of helping people... well, after a while I suppose it might be something that wears one down. But even if he needed a break, he shouldn't have asked, and he should know that what he said is not the right thing to say to someone seeking your comfort.

    The OS community is on the whole very sincere, so feel safe sharing it with us, even though many may not know how to respond most will gladly listen. So thank you for sharing. Now, well, I just want to offer you my own shoulder. Please, feel free to take it, and I'll help in any way I can. :)

    And in the future, I hope you can get the in-person shoulder to cry on, if that's what you feel you need. I don't think it would be out of place to pull him aside about that incident. Just tell him, you never wanted to demand anything from him and your goal was not to make him feel drained in any way. Just ask for a couple minutes of his time, and let him know it's appreciated. If that does not get past his wall, he is not the person to go to any more. You deserve an open arm.
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    hikari izumi - 06-28-2012 04:53 AM
    i just thought that i could tell him anything and he would be there for me because i have always been there for him without question because i was his friend and that's what friends do even when i had alot of problems of my own even some very serious but i was there for him never the less.it's just hard for me to open up to people because i always have in the back of my mind that im either annoying them or im burdening them which scares me because i don't want anyone to feel like that and it's hard enough being my friend as it is.

    thanks (⌒▽⌒)☆ it's really nice to have a good response to a blog like this i really expected people to tell me to suck it up or tell me im weak to get upset about something like that so it's really nice to read such a positive comment so thanks again ☆彡　　★彡　　☆彡　　★彡
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    musikalles - 06-28-2012 05:11 AM
    You're welcome, hikari, it's my pleasure :) don't forget!
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    hikari izumi - 06-28-2012 05:19 AM
    domo arigato gozaimasu (thank you very much)