fake or real?

[KhenLee202]

hey guys, what if your in a situation where you really like a girl or a guy then you found out that he or she hates a certain character or personality which is yours, would you try to pretend to be someone else or would you be yourself knowing you wont stand a chance?

[CythilVen]

No, I wont change a thing.
If she really likes me.
She'll love me the way I am.

[Raxia]

Nope I won't change and besides even if I did, in time the real me would certainly be discovered by that person.
So I'll just show her from the start what kind of a person I am and I'll just show her that there's more in me than the part she hates in me. :D

[mlcdl]

Theres no point in pretending even it is sake for your own happiness. That would only bring more pain and as Raxia posted, it is better to reveal that factor as early as possible to avoid more problems and such.

[Night blade]

Stay true to yourself. Never compromise who you are to try to impress someone else.

[Viletomb2010]

No I will not pretend. If you will just pretend... lets assume you get the boy or girl you want but if he/she will know in the future that you are just pretending you will have a lot of trouble and worse case scenario you will just broke up with each other. If she/he do not like you because of a certain personality try using your strong points so that somehow you can have still a chance on the specific someone.

[Doctor Jaeger]

Trying to compromise a personality asset because of a shallow dislike is a recipe for disaster. Nothing good comes from pretending to be someone you're not.

[Shiro]

If it's a bad personality trait, why not get rid of it?
Getting rid of your bad traits is actually better than pretending to be someone with good traits
That way, you won't have to fake anything
Amirite? xD

[cherriedreams]

If I changed something in me, I wouldn't be me anymore.

[trooper]

For me,, i would change my Behavior.. :)) or just Act like someone she/he likes :)) thats what i would do... sometimes i just give up on her :))

[Shoutbux]

Nope...whats the point of lying to a girl you love....I have a philosophy in life: Show who you really are, If she doesnt like it dont force it to her nor lie for in the end time will come she'll know about it.

[pikel]

Meh. If a girl doesn't like my personality, I'd just give up on her. There is no reason to try to pursue a relationship with someone who won't like the real you. If I were in a situation like that I would just hold out until I found someone who would like me as I am. A relationship built on lies will usually blow up in your face.

[SaitoRokujo]

Just be yourself, sure you could have a chance if you pretend to be someone else but all in all over time you won't be able to keep "pretending" to be someone that your not. You should stay true and be who you are. And maybe you can get Chance and Luck.

[SpazKaz]

Being real is the only way.

Love or hate it, it is who you are. So it won't matter if said person is a good friend or loves you, they'll look over it, if not, guess it's not meant to be.

[ferenz]

Just remember You are You and no one can change you.

[Snoozy19]

I think that there was a thread similar to this a while back..... *not sure.... -.-

Normally I'd state that I wouldn't change one bit and forget that dudette but right now, I think that I'd give a different opinion.

If I really really really like that chick then I would go against my principles and change the aspect that she didn't like about me immediately.
Don't get me wrong, I totally wouldn't stay like that. In fact its all part of my plan to win her heart from the inside.
After her loving the fake me, I'd know more about her and show her the real me more little at a time. So after she realizes that I am actually very loving person despite the fault that she thought she hated about me, we can love one another for real... XDDDD

[evilwil]

Im not really sure about this idea but ill share it anyways!...If that girl dont like you then maybe she's not for you!.....but for other persons say!....destiny in front of us dont lead us! We lead Destiny in front of us!

[kyou01]

I'll never change anything, I will act who I am
I'll make that person love me the way I am 8D

[Qualtz]

That won't really matter if the person you like is in love with someone else, would it?

[Arathius]

Always be yourself. People are atracted to it anyway, and its kinder to be honest in any situation where romance is involved

[Revelix]

I would still be myself.
Maybe you can show her/him a something about that side that is actually awesome ;)

[restpice]

I would definitely go to "Speaking or revealing your true self" or let's just say "Would like to be yourself knowing you wouldn't stand a chance".
Welll the reason is, it's kinda odd and not comfortable way of feeling you have when you're pretending or hiding a secret to the one you fell for.
Plus, Secrets are meant to be revealed right? For ex. You and your crush became BF and GFs and he/she found out your secret and you argued each other about these lines: "Why didn't you tell me?" or "Why did you have these kind of habits that I didn't know from the very start of our relationship?" and he/ or she decided to cool off or breaks up in short.

I recommend showing your true self, you never know, maybe he/she will accept you as your true self, or to be short ACCEPT YOU AS YOU WILL GONNA SUPPOSE TO BE.

[gabsilog123]

hmm, maybe there's no point in changing your personality for just a person, if that person really loves you then there's no way he/she will not acknowledge that personality of yours that he/she hates :)

[Bunislipper]

Even though loads of people say that they wouldnt change for that person...I bet they have before. Same with friendship. I hung out with someone who wanted me to be someone else and I changed for her...because I wanted her to be my friend. Everyone slips up now and then and makes a decision they wish they never. It's the process of learning who you actually are. If you go through it...you know not to change for anyone again. People should love you for who you are.

But even so...I'm not telling you that you should go ahead and fake just so she likes you...but you know what YOU can't just assume that she won't and neither can she. Be yourself and approach her still...you never know, she might just like you after all :)

[Kobowo]

Depends on the trait but I prefer to be myself. If the person likes you back they would be willing to overlook that trait that they hate about you. Alternatively its better to come clean tell them you are like that but you are willing to change if they would let you[assuming that you are willing to change of course]. Being dishonest with yourself would just hurt you in the end so it would be better to show who you really are.

[spellcaster]

having a characteristic which she doesnt like does not mean you dont stand a chance at all..
you just have to show her that that is not just who you are, and show her other sides of you..
the side of you which is smart.. the side of you which is kind.. or the side of you which is cool..

[muddz]

if they don't like you, don't push it..
but who knows?
if you spend more time together,
maybe things will turn out
not what you have expected from the start..

"there's light at the end of the tunnel"

either something good..
or a train! [disaster] XD

[error345]

hmm after seeing the most post here..
There's one thing i can say with certainty that when people really want something they adapt to the situation, yea some might/want be true to their self but wouldn't some just hide that part of your personality when around that person? Asking this is in a sense is the same as asking if you never lied to your partner, people lie to get what they want that's reality. A mature person can also be otherwise but then again ..
Now for my part, well i can't say, unless i really really like this person, i won't show that part of me around her, if it's a minor trait that can be changed then yea i would, however, i won't not do major changes..

The agonist ~

[Tenin]

Not smart to lie about your real personality. If you guys ever end up dating, how would you feel knowing its not the real you?

[nihtshade]

theres no point in changing yourself or hiding it you cant build a good relationship on lies so youll have screwed yourself before you even begin if you do that if youve heard this from someone else then you cant be sure that its 100% true your better off just trying to get to know the person as a friend 1st that way youll both know each other better and see what happens from there thats how i got to know my now husband XD

[Ragnarok]

No I wouldn't change myself, boys and girls don't like the same things to begin with so it's kinda tricky to get along. When I like a girl I'm just a little withdrawn about my personality but I reveal some things about myself as I go and I learn more about her as we become more friendly with each other... well I might change my behavior to something more "knightly" but never my personality.

[Reizero]

be myself probably. it's never good to pretend to be someone else. it rarely works out in the end, unless you eventually tell the truth and she/he understands ^^

[jpnv8]

i would stay real. if that person doesnt like the real you he/she isnt worth your time. There are lots of opportunity of meeting people that will like you for who you are.

[GMSieghart]

for me i wont change a thing i will make my self be more close to her and be more truthful so that she will accept me! :D

[Aisu Kurimu]

Changing something which isn't you at all is very hard.. yes, you can go on concealing that certain trait that he/she doesn't like about you, but how long can you hide something you're not? Eventually, your true colors will show and the real "you" will be unfolded right before that person's eyes, and he/she will know you lied.. :/

You have a right to be loved for who you are, by the right person.. <3 Don't change anything.. I suggest let him/her know the true "you", not to have him/her disappointed or turned off, but show the real you just to be honest with the person.. If he/she really loves you, he/she will stay by your side despite of those flaws you have. Don't be in a rush to change things ahead of time without letting the person know, be honest first, and when he/she asks you to change something unpleasant about you, then that's the time you change yourself..
Don't lie.

Oh my.. I think I overdid that.. XD Just sharing my viewpoint..

[iCookiez]

Well... It maybe true but if you love someone you'd do anything for them right?

[aishe7chrome]

i dont used to change my style.. because most of the poeple in my life likes me in what i am... but if someone dont like me, still i will never changed my own style...

[resolve]

I will never change for someone else's happiness.

I'm true to myself.

If that person doesn't like me.

Someone else will.

[azukare]

love me for who i am, for what i am and for whre i am wahahahaha

[Unholee]

No i would not change the way my personality is for anybody. Of course my personality may grow to change. But to forcefully try to change it does not seem to healthy or honest to one self.