Your Ex

[kuyah]

I'm not sure about you guys, but I need to talk about it to get it off my chest. Feel free to also share your stories about your ex and comment on others lols. You don't really have to share but at least comment on how you feel about this situation.. ;/

Ever since the first time I started dating (sophmore year hs), every relationship I had were long-distance, or soon to become long-distance. Amazingly none close or school relationships, and every one of those relationship always failed(or at least it did for me). Then after 2 failed relationships(one failed because of phone bill xP , the other was due to her Ex"les" lmao) I decided to stay single and thought it was better that way. Of course, I felt free but then at certain moments(movies, commercial, jogging at the park), I feel left out >_< .

One day, I met this one girl online(MMORPG MapleStory haha) and yeah, we were pretty cool with each other. Of course were the same age and same race(filipino) so theres nothing wrong in getting to know each other. Yade yade yada! We got together online, few months later met by chance >_< . And this relationship went strong for at least 2 ina half or 3 years. As soon as we started going to college.. that's where things just went downhill......

It was a long-distance relationship but we were both sure nothing would go wrong so yeah(a trust thing). College was getting annoying and harsh, then we started to spend less time with each other.. Since college was very tough on each other, I suggested that we focus more on college than this relationship(which I thought was full-proof at the time) and we did. We didn't talk for at least a month and I felt that college got easier since I could focus more.... But in that month, she found someone else.. or rather someone forced themselves upon her... ugh... After 2 months(wondering why she doesn't call much) , everything was easy in college and I call.. but to only hear bad news that shes been cheating on me and yep..

Few months later(around 5 months) I wanted to check up on her to hear if shes doing okay.. but I just found out she found another guy who's just like "me" or so she says lmao...... (got hurt when I heard that)

I shouldn't have called her last night >_<



Well anyways, your stories does not have to be as long as mines and you don't really have to go into detail.. just yeah lols

comment on what you think about my story and others who would like to share >_<

[gooms]

i'm sure you'll find another girl out there. just don't stick with your tought anymore couz it'll just give you hard time dude. yeah college is just like that,. but having a relationship bet it is not an excuse! if your having one, it's just a matter of time management., tho it's way to harder if your partner is always with you,(but that's good)..
so just move on and find another girl, maybe in your school.hehe

[russj]

nice(doesnt mean im entertained by your misery) story man.. im not sure if i can comment on it though.. the admin doesnt enjoy my comments haha

all i can say is, you should find someone you can really be with instead of just having an emotional investment over a thing that isnt really that concrete. i'd like to commend your loyalty and devotion.

thats all haha

note: youre the second citizen with this post.. congratulations haha

[DoubleZeta]

Nearly similar to a story I remember.

All I can say is that you don't need to think about her so much. It would only ruin you in the end, just be proud that you were loyal and she wasn't.

Well, I still have some little resentment about my EX. I wouldn't want to think about it, because it will cause my blood to boil. Let's say, I also found out that she had replaced me...worse of all, she exchanged me for a person I know and is one of my friends.

[skywalk3r]

Shush, mecha-head. It will ruin you. And besides, exs are only part of your past. You don't have to be crazy about them.

[yoyoyoyou]

Sad :(.

I suppose by now you have learned your lesson on long distance relationships. Very little of them actually work out. It will take a lot of trust and loyalty between the two parties.

So what do you plan to do?

[alown]

i don't think long distance relations work.

[alrius2000]

All I can say is...... your past is a part that makes the present.
What does'nt kill you only makes you stronger!

Live life to the fullest :emh22:

[DoubleZeta]

It differs depending on the personality of the person actually and I suggest to learn the person's background before going in to a relation.

[kuyah]

@AchronycalChaos - The thing about your friends.. yeah I didn't see anything happening in the relationship, it just ended because this guy told her a few words(probably saying that "he will always be there for her and bullcr*&#37;) and forced himself on her lmao. x_x oh wells. Its good that you didn't give in to his harrassment, its all about pleasure for him. >.> And congrats on finding someone ^_^

@Doublezeta - I totally agree with that, but she was my first real life gf xD (even though) it lasted 2-3 years, it feels like cause sometimes I wait for a phone call.. reminds me of some "BackStreet Boys" song hahah

@sky - Whats past is past! it can't pass me twice ^_^ (osht)

@yoyoyoyou - I plan to drown myself in work like I have been doing for the past half a year(broke up in October) and anime.. animeanimeanime ^____^ and most definitely OS~

@alown - I know for a fact and personal experiences (twice) that they don't work out.. well lets make that 3 now xD . I should start listening to my friends, family, and OS ^_^

@alruis or al - I think a part of me died when she broke up with me >_< (the loving, kind, and caring type of person) I realized this when the people I normally talk to tell me I have a strange aura or atittude. But I feel stronger and better now (6months later) ^_^

Thanks for replying to my call guys ^_^ I feel better talking about it than shutting it in ya know?

Arigato! ^_^

[Bindu1000]

Well I am not going to comment on the long distance relationship part coz I have seen all sorts. One friend had one for 12 years, got married and divorced in two. Another had one for 5 years got married and after another 5 years and 2 kids still happily married. I have seen people living next door to each other fall in love and stay together or get tired of having them underfoot, so I dont think its the distance, but the personality of the two involved

However - my ex puts all other's to shame. We went out for 4 1/2 years and during this time, I was driven to think of suicide several times (and almost attempted it once), lost all my friends and became a shadow of the person I was.

I like to think I am a fairly simple person who likes to read and good conversation and above all things am attracted to an sharp mind and a fine wit. He had all things but was also a master manipulator (Later found out he had done psychology in college and had tried every trick in the books on me). He waited till I had fallen hook line and sinker by being the sweetest and most wonderful boyfriend and then suddenly told me there was someone else he was falling in love with, but he didnt want to let me go either so I needed to give him the space to decide which one he loved better. I was so stupid, I actually let him date her while dating me and there would be times when we would be in bed together at his place and he would suddenly say "You have to go now, she is coming over in the next hour"

Everytime I tried to break away, he would break down and say he couldnt let me go and I would give in. To make him love me more than her, I did everything he wanted me to do. I changed my hair-style, stopped wearing make-up, changed my style of clothing, my style of talking and stopped going out with my friends. He wouldn't take me anywhere as he never wanted the other girl to know he was seeing me as well. Most of my friends just gave up on me.

It was my best friend and my mum's illness that finally gave me the strength to break away but by this time, I was a physical and nervous wreck.

Now you might think me as a weak and silly woman, but the fact is, I grew up in a tough neighbourhood without a father and learnt to be strong and take care of myself from a very young age. I am fairly intelligent and was holding down a very high level job at a young age so I should have known better.

Its strange how love can be both an up-building or destructive force, so if a relationship doesnt seem to be working out, however hard you try, sometimes its good to walk away. There is someone out there for you, you just need to give it time. That relationship scared me so much, I stayed single for 4 years before I found my current love and I am keeping my finger's crossed, that this time its the real deal. I know I love him enough to make it want to survive :1:

[yoyoyoyou]

You're welcome! :D

Well, at least you're putting yourself into good use ^^. Take care.

[alrius2000]

6 months???
i think that is just enough time to recuperate....
cant really say you have move on until someone better comes along :emh22:

[DoubleZeta]

I haven't recovered from mine yet. You guys are really lucky you hadn't experienced a nightmare like mine. Well, maybe sky did experience a nightmare just like mine, but hey... the impact is much more dreaded for me. XD

[kuyah]

@Bindu - Thats a major relationship that went hardcore x_x I could some what relate, as in friends stopped talking to me cause I was always with this girl, had a darker image than I thought, but I'm glad you left that guy for being a "Makoto" xD congrats on finding that new person. ^_^

@al - I already moved on >_< its just a shock talking to her again(out of bordom, bad move) xD after 6 months.. it kinda felt like she left me again somehow lmao..... I got anime and OS, so I'll be fine ^_^

@doublezeta - Bindu's already seems hardcore enough.. is your nightmare more worse? x_x

[error345]

I've learnt that long distance relationship don't work for me, it's either i get bored or the other person. It's not so much the calls, but if i'm with someone i need to see that person. Especially if you're in college, long distance is a no, it's too much effort when you need to force on your studies. Either that person will get tired, even if she does understand the situation and decides to wait (or allow you to study) some romeo comes along to take her. kuyah your relationship was good while it lasted huh, that's the thing with unfaithful, it's better to be alone (or atleast until you finish your studies). They will always come and go, yea there's alot of fish in the sea, there's also shark, sea weed and toxic waste. I like reading about stuff like these, bindu your's was good also. And about the part when a relationship ends

I think a part of me died when she broke up with me
i feel that, i lose more of me with each try.
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This thread is old, i'm giving it a bump for others to share their stories.

[Anaala]

Aw I'm sorry that things didn't work out.
I think the people in your past are there for a reason, I say so long and thanks for the memories to them. I'm sure you will find someone eventually just don't rush it. Being in a relationship for the sake of it will never work out (probably there are exceptions to every rule after all).

I can't really give advice on relationships since I've only been in one and it was a long distance relationship for a few years until he stopped working offshore. We never had problems with cheating or even the distance (it got lonely at times though to be married and not see your spouse can be hard).

We always discussed everything no matter how silly. If we were annoyed, we take a walk and cool off so we could talk about what ever it was without the fog of anger clouding our judgment.

I have had bad luck with friendships on the other hand. I found that I despaired of relinquishing what little bonds I had left with them because I hated to know that I had invested so much time in them only to find out that I was nothing to them. It hurt so bad. But I got over it. Even on my best day I won't be winning any popularity contests because I am too aloof, but at least I know that the people in my life now really wanted to be there.

Somehow this seems to have gone a little off topic...I'm not good at this but I do hope it cheered you up a bit.

[PolPunisher]

I met this 20 year old girl "who I wont say her name" in college who in just two months into the relationship, wanted to get married and have children and this was only her first semester in college. I was in my fourth year and was 25 years old at the time. Fast forward not even a month, I find her cheating on me with another guy. Talk about getting played as a fool. And she just told me not even a month that she wanted to get married and have children. That is something deep and personal to be talking about and I was majorly upset, heart broken, and depressed after I found out about what she did. That is just sad an cruel. Ouch!! Why me?