If this happened to you... what would you do?

[Kumo no Yoru]

A girl I began to like recently asked me to a spring banquet at our high school about 2 years ago. I said "Yeah, sure, why not?", and we went (she's also a friend I met in grade 9). When I got there, we locked arms and went into the banquet. About 1 minute after, her best friend (and cousin) came running in, and took her away. I didn't say a word because when this girl asked me, she said "I need you to be there so this guy will realize that I don't like him, but I don't like anyone. Can you come with me so that he'll get the hint?" So, thinking it was not a big deal, I just let her go, and sat down at a table with all my friends.

She texted me the day after and said that I was a meanie and I should've stuck with her and called her back from her friend and sat with her.
What would you have done and what would you think about what she said?

If this is just stupid and I'm a jerk, just say so. I really prefer honest opinions.

[Sora Kasugano]

She asked you to the Banquet right? I get the feeling that she likes you too. Since you liked her, then its better to be with her. shes asking for your help, which means you're the only boy she can depend to. If you truly like the girl, then why not help her? Best Friends? Cousins? Taking her away? WTF! They don't have the right to do that. Also, its weird for her not to resist @_@

But hey, if you like her and she likes you, then why don't you confess your feelings to her? that would be a lot more easier. I mean she will be your girl friend, that way, if they take her again. then you also have the right to take her back and yell : WTF are you dong to my girl friend, haha kinda aggressive XD

[Kumo no Yoru]

XD, thank you! I appreciate the advice and honesty!

[icsenen002]

A girl I began to like recently asked me to a spring banquet at our high school about 2 years ago. I said "Yeah, sure, why not?", and we went (she's also a friend I met in grade 9). When I got there, we locked arms and went into the banquet. About 1 minute after, her best friend (and cousin) came running in, and took her away. I didn't say a word because when this girl asked me, she said "I need you to be there so this guy will realize that I don't like him, but I don't like anyone. Can you come with me so that he'll get the hint?" So, thinking it was not a big deal, I just let her go, and sat down at a table with all my friends.

She texted me the day after and said that I was a meanie and I should've stuck with her and called her back from her friend and sat with her.
What would you have done and what would you think about what she said?

If this is just stupid and I'm a jerk, just say so. I really prefer honest opinions.

Yeah you are stupid! she ask for your help like a damsel in distress thing and you didnt help her! you should get her back and make amends

[Bunislipper]

Hmm thats a weird sitiuation but simply call her up and explain that you thought it wasn't a big deal because she was basically using you (no offence) to make the other guy realise that she doesn't like him however the fact that she even asked you...she could have told him straigt up that she didnt like him....instead she asked you so a part of me feels like she likes you just like most of these posts say...just ring her up and tell her you are sorry and didn't know what was going on at the time you didnt understand why they took her away and thought it was best to leave you alone...so just say that :) Im sure she will understand if she is a real true friend and if she likes you :)
xx

[rakusa]

i think she likes you,

or the negative thing : she's using you, maybe she send you that message, so that you won't feel depressed..
that's my opinion..

[coldground93]

She's basically asking you to pretend to be her boyfriend at the banquet... she said it so indirect that you must've misunderstood.. it's not really your fault but should man up and apologize and say "I didn't get the idea, sorry I thought that you just asked me out so he can't ask you out"

[JenOtaku]

`I think she likes you. Just keep it up and she will be yours. :))

[Liesianthes]

A girl I began to like recently asked me to a spring banquet at our high school about 2 years ago. I said "Yeah, sure, why not?", and we went (she's also a friend I met in grade 9). When I got there, we locked arms and went into the banquet. About 1 minute after, her best friend (and cousin) came running in, and took her away. I didn't say a word because when this girl asked me, she said "I need you to be there so this guy will realize that I don't like him, but I don't like anyone. Can you come with me so that he'll get the hint?" So, thinking it was not a big deal, I just let her go, and sat down at a table with all my friends.

She texted me the day after and said that I was a meanie and I should've stuck with her and called her back from her friend and sat with her.
What would you have done and what would you think about what she said?

If this is just stupid and I'm a jerk, just say so. I really prefer honest opinions.

i cannot blame you for doing that...
i think i ill do the same thing if that happens to me...
i mean her best friend cousin called her right?
you let her go because of this... the word best friend / cousin...
make you feel comfortable that's everything ok... <-i think this is what came in your mind that time
even me will do that.. because of that... explain to her and tell sorry for that...
and remember this:

"The most important thing is not to whine about the past, but the will to change the present for the sake of the future"

[Snoozy19]

It happened 2 years ago?!?!?! Kinda late to do anything now huh... well, if you just wanna hear some of our opinions then I'll give it a shot.

What icsenen002 posted is one thing that I would agree to. I mean why didn't you at least stood up and announced that she was already with someone instead of you just standing there while you see her getting taken away.
Now if I were you during that time, I wouldn't care if that person was her best friend or something but I'd have a firm grip on her and not let her go knowing that THAT dude that likes her is somewhere lurking around waiting to make a move.... DUDE, what you did was not the brightest idea (at most). *sighs

Besides, you already knew to why she asked you to be her partner in that banquet so why in heavens name did you just let her go like that. To what I might think to what she was probably thinking at that moment to when she was taken away it would have to be of great disappointment for you (No offense). The reason is because anyone in that position would likely feel abandoned by the one person that he/she trusted in the first place.

You should have followed her or at least kept an eye on her in case THAT dude caused some type of trouble that could potentially hurt her in anyway.

Regarding to what she texted you the next day, I can't determine another reason to agree to it all.

~ (Please don't flame me...LOL)

[lolkaitlin]

Ugh, such a girl thing. I'm rolling my eyes, I have too many friends who act like that.

Honestly, you did nothing wrong. She's just scolding you because she wanted you to take leadership of the situation but you didn't really seem to fully grasp the situation. In my opinion, just tell her you didn't notice that you 'were being mean' and tell her that her best friend took her away so you didn't want to disturb girl time.

You didn't do ANYTHING wrong. You're not a jerk, you're not a bad person, you're just doing what any guy would've done. To be honest, if you chased after her in any other situation, it would've made you seem really clingy and gross. So don't worry about it, haha. Just 'apologize' for getting her upset.