should i butt into peoples business?

[Torrent]

uuhhhhh... the holiday break is about to end. so far, im having the time of my life.. XD

anyway.. I have a bestfriend he's a guy and he's into......
guys.

yeah life's tough. He has a boyfriend at the moment. :swt:
the thing is there's this sweet girl that really likes him and currently
working abroad for her ojt. the girl wanted him to wait for her till she
gets back and then they'll settle on their relationship into a deeper level
the girl is really close to me too. she pm's me on facebook if my bestfriend
is not returning her calls and text messages, I think shes really into my bestfriend
that she worries too much. I on the other hand feels like im helping my bestfriend
into fooling this girl because he currently has a boyfriend. and thats not good right?


ps.
my bestfriend told me that his relationship with this guy is not a permanent thing
and he'll eventually learn to love the girl who's been waiting for him. but isn't this technically cheating?
everybody knows that he, and the girl are going out. they also have
a relationship status on their facebook


what do you think i should do?
i don't think this is any of my business. but i can't just let this happen
Do i butt in because i'm the only one that knows the truth?
or should i not. and just let this slide? after all im not truly involved?


whaat do i dooo? xDDD
:noway:

[notanotaku]

Just tell her the truth...I'm sure that girls don't mind yaoi haha. Ok, just don't say anything and keep it this way. I think it's going good as far as i can see it.

[TheGentleman]

An ugly truth is better than a beautiful lie. The girl deserves to know the truth of what's happening, I think. It's only fair to her, and to your friend as well. If the deception continues, one or both of them could end up hurt.

However, on the other hand, telling the girl may jeopardize your friendship with your best friend. So it really all comes down to how well you know the individuals, and how well you are able to gauge what their reactions might be.

That being said, I still believe it's best that you tell her what's going on.

[Kurten]

That is cheating, if that girl really loves him and he treats her like that behind her back then she's too good for him. Sorry for being blunt now but stuff like this really piss me off.

[sal6oon]

ahh well... if ur relationship with the girl is gd also u can tell her that he is cheating but since he is ur best friend idk but its up to u i mean u think if after she is bck he will truly leave that bf of his or not cuz if he dont and u didnt tell her from now she might still be in love with him and will worry even more when she find out from him but as i said u cant know the future on weather he will leave his bf and truly love this girl or not

[shinku]

I think you should tell her the truth because it is unfair for the girl... and what your bestfriend is doing is wrong.... that's cheating.... I feel sad for the girl =(

[Kurtherror]

If you think that is none of your business, then you should not butt in
I personality think getting involved with others business will lead me nowhere good

[Kurten]

I personality think getting involved with others business will lead me nowhere good

That is true, I still feel sorry for the girl though. Either you act and be prepared for some shit or you let this play out and see how it goes. I would personally go for option nr 1 since i don't think it could become a healthy relationship out of this.

[Torrent]

well I talked to my best friend about this matter

I told him to tell the girl the truth. and don't make the girl wait for nothing.

he told me that, well..

its his lovelife, and he said that the girl already knew about it. but the only
thing she knew was he was in a relationship with a guy, he didn't tell her
how intimate him and the guy is, how deep their love is, and that their planning
to live together when he graduates. but its not like hes gonna be with him forever
and still planning to have a family with that girl he says.

which is now making me think that he has no plans to let go of that guy
it really pisses me off, but i get the feeling if i butt in more its gonna be "bye-bye"
to five years of being bestfriends.

[notanotaku]

True, it's his lovelife. If he says so, then you should not butt in. She knows about the relationship between him and the other guy so technically, its not cheating because she's willing to wait and that guy said its not a perma thing so yeah, if she loves him...she can wait otherwise that's not true love.

[Torrent]

:goodmood:I guess I'll just leave it to that then

[KarmaOnce]

I think that if the girl asks for information that you know of, just give it to her. But besides that, if your friend likes someone else, it's not really your right to meddle. But he's still your best friend. If you really really think he's going to far, you have to tell me. It's all for the best. ^_^

Good luck!

[lolkaitlin]

Huuuh, what the hell!!!!!11

Your best friend is an idiot and that girl deserves to know what's going on! I don't care if that's your best friend, tell the girl about him TECHNICALLY cheating on her. I'm sure she'll get a kick out of hearing that the guy she likes is dating a boy.

What a situation, seriously. I really want you to tell the girl. This makes me angry, lmao.

[sal6oon]

Huuuh, what the hell!!!!!11

Your best friend is an idiot and that girl deserves to know what's going on! I don't care if that's your best friend, tell the girl about him TECHNICALLY cheating on her. I'm sure she'll get a kick out of hearing that the guy she likes is dating a boy.

What a situation, seriously. I really want you to tell the girl. This makes me angry, lmao.

she alrdy know that he is dating a guy but she dont know that they are intimate

but u know... a guy who would do such a thing and a girl who would accept such a thing its just super weird and its like some1 gonna end up hurt trust me

[Torrent]

she alrdy know that he is dating a guy but she dont know that they are intimate

but u know... a guy who would do such a thing and a girl who would accept such a thing its just super weird and its like some1 gonna end up hurt trust me

I know right.. i mean I don't have any proof that the girl really do know.. thats what just my best friend told me.. i mean i never really did asked the girl if she knew... fishy huh..

[avich]

If ever I find out that one of my friend's partner is cheating, I won't go out my way to say because I am in no position to say anything about it. BUT, if my friend would ask, I will truthfully answer.

[sal6oon]

Torrent just wait and see if she asks u whats wrong i think its better to tell her but not in every detail

[Pirocat]

If I were you I would not get involved in their business. It happened to me before to know that my friend cheated on her bf and I didn't say anything, I got my friends back because they put their trust in me. I think trust is the foundation of a solid friendship, you should not put your friendship at risk over this.. love lives are private stuff. If the girl asks you details about that you can just say that it's not your place to say anything about it, so you don't have to lie, just don't tell.

[Torrent]

If I were you I would not get involved in their business. It happened to me before to know that my friend cheated on her bf and I didn't say anything, I got my friends back because they put their trust in me. I think trust is the foundation of a solid friendship, you should not put your friendship at risk over this.. love lives are private stuff. If the girl asks you details about that you can just say that it's not your place to say anything about it, so you don't have to lie, just don't tell.

makes sense.. i guess your right! :) thanks pirocat :emh28: