do you really have friends

[furude rika]

Our teacher asked us to make a research paper of any topic. I've been thinking and decided to think if I have friends I mean real friends so chose the topic friendship. now after starting to make my research paper I realized that I don't have friends I mean yeah it's true that I have friends but the thing is I don't think that they are really real and that they would still be there once I graduate. I'm starting to hate myself for not having friends at all I just wanted to share this to you guys so might you might think again if you really have friends cause I don't. I really hate myself because of this.:touched:

[Sora Kasugano]

I sympathize you. But still you have friends right ? if your bond is really unbreakable, then you can always see them whenever you wanted too. the thing is you can't always see then when you graduated already. But you can still make new friends on your new school. I have many friends to begin with. I cant even count them. Both Young and Old. Different kinds too. Otaku Friends, OS Otaku Friends. School Friends, Neighborhood Friends, Out side friends, Other Countries Friends, and etc. And I find it hard to memorize all of their names, haha. But not all of them are always with me. But we have promised to never leave each other.

We all have an Unbreakable Bond even though I dont have communication of others. But we still meet online, like Facebook. and of course they are always there for me when I needed them they always comforts me when I feeling down, try to make laugh when I'm sad, and etc. They have never abandoned me and try to sell me, like that. And that includes my new friends too. And that is what you called Real Friends. Other Friends are not like that at all. And that is why I hate it like that. Trying to befriend with you but didnt take your Friendship serious. Well, I'm done telling you My Real Friends. And that is all there is~

[takasuryuuji]

At some point you can say that you don't have real friend, but at the first place you can't say that you ever got one. But at sometimes those people that you don't think as your real friends were the one who care for you more...
A friend will always be a friend no matter what happen... a true friend will leave you behind even if you don't want too, for you to stand on your own and decide for your own future...

[SkyOrange]

Have you heard of the Story of The Lonely Demon? try watching Densetsu no yuusha no densetsu, you might learn something from it, its on the last episode....

well if you ask me... just live for your friends... even though its an unrequited love of a friend...

i dun have real friends before, honestly, but i didnt mind not having real friends...
and later i was surprised that people start calling me their friend... hehe

just live for your friends dude... treat them well even though they wont treat you back...

[furude rika]

Well I guess you guy are right

[Snoozy19]

I feel the same as you dudette.

Real friends are hard to find these days, not friends that are temporary but friends that you will know for a very long time.
Now that I think about it, I too don't seem to have REAL friends that I can trust and depend on. I mean people that you tell your secrets to and not worry about them telling anyone else are rare to come across these days or it may just be my sucky luck in making friends... XP

I don't even know anyone that has a best friend from the first grade or so. That might just translate to something like our society being crap-ish or people these days have trust issues.
For if some reason that I were to write a paper regarding this topic then I would probably be stuck at some point discussing the types of friends that I presently have.

Though not having real friends will not stop a person from being a true friend to them. If they won't be your best friend then why shouldn't you try being their true friend?? Eventually, they will see how true you are and learn to become true friends as well.

I can't deny that my life right now sucks azz due to me not really trusting my friends all the time, but I sure did would and never betray them in some sort because being a rat would suck more.

We don't choose our friends but they happen to just come to our lives to either make it better or worse... (just hope that its for the better)

[Viletomb2010]

I have many friends too but I doubt also if at least one of them is a true friend. I will give you my sympathize. *Pats furude rika there there*

It is easy to find friends but I bet it is hard to find a true friend nowadays. I envy those once who have a childhood friends because you can call him/her as your true friend. I hope someday I will find one. Good luck on your research paper and I hope you will also at least one true friend that you can depend, share your secrets and have fun with each other.

[Kurtherror]

Friends huh?? I dont like the idea of being used and with that I only classify people as friends when they also call me friend

[Pikkewyn]

many people have no friends, only people they like and hang out with. Real friendship is more than that, in my opinion.

[7DeadlySins]

Real friends come from normal friends in my opinion

I was like that too back in my HS years. I studied at an all boys school where violence is an everyday activity...
But there are a few people you can count on or you feel happy to be with...
You can consider them between the boundary of normal and real friends...
It just takes time to polish the friendship you have for each other...
You will realize soon that you want to bring back the old memories you had I'm sure that's what they are thinking as well...
I guess you can call them real friends after all :))

[Fubuki]

You always have a friend--your conscience. No need to worry about friendlessness anymore... Unless you kill your conscience...
Yes I have many friends~

[evil105]

You might not think about that but: I had the same thing once ....but after I stopped for couple of minutes and thought about it .... I was the one to blame ... I didn't call them , I didn't talk to them out of school ..... but after releasing this ... I got their number...etc and we became best friends .eventhough I dont think I will meet them irl in the next year because they are studying in another country we still talk on facebook and MSN.
Friendship is something you make not something you gain! :P

[Liesianthes]

In a hundred or thousands of people that i know.. i only have 5 real friends..
1 in grade school
2 in highschool
1 in my first course +2 coz his friend also become my friend..
1 (still not sure.. we just met a month ago..)
i'm a silent person but in one glance i can see who's real and who's not..

[alkon13]

I see that im not the only one that has little friends i have 7 true friends i suppose we've been together for years but now most of us moved to other cities and i dont really have friends in my new city :/ Anyway i m happy with only these friends cause they know how to support me even if not anyone of them considers me as their best friend! The true problem for me is that in my 19 years of life i dont seem to find a girlfriend..I mean i made out with some women in the past and had sex with a few other in the last years but i never really had a girlfriend and that makes me feel incomplete.Believe me my problem isn't the looks but i can't define it.Sometimes they say you cant see your own weak points...has any of you felt incomplete for that reason or is it just me?

[evil105]

Actually my best friend: I dont remember how I met him , he dont remember how he met me ..... no one knows how we became friend : but we remember which year .... we have never been in the same class , eventhought he is my best friend ... I trust him and believe him in everything. :)

[jeiru01]

I have friends, But I'm not really sure if they're real. I mean, Yes, we always talk in school, share our feelings, go wherever one of us go, share our food, walk together, laugh together, read together, do our project together and such. But It lacks something. It felt cold sometimes. Whenever one of them has a problem, believe it our not, I always go and talk to them. I always cheer them up.But If have a problem. I feel like, I'm really alone. They won't even get near me and ask me what's wrong. They just look at me and say: Oh, you're sad. or something like that, then move on. How cold. Then, when one of them skips school, again, believe it or not, I call or text them after school, ask them the reason why they're absent. Give them instructions, give them the homeworks, give them the activities that happened. and what about me? I'm left alone! I don't get updates, I don't get anything!!!! I do my own research alone! I thought doing good things to other people would persuade them to do good things to me. But, NO. It's the same. Are they really my friends? or just companions.. Companions who wants to get the best in me.

I had real friends when I was still I'm elementary. I lost them all when I was in High School. We parted ways. I want to have real friends in College. This is actually the reason why I barely use friendship as a topic for stories, poems, paragraphs and such. My HS life was miserable. It was, and until now, It is still. If they were my real friends, They should've understand most of my feelings. They only think about themselves. They're.. selfish. Why do I hang out with them? Because they somehow understand me. We share similar traits. But they just don't get the whole me. I'm mad.

[Max Magnus]

I can say I have a few good REAL friends, 2 in particular with whom I can share anything and can always pick up a conversation with even after being apart for months (physically anyway, online messaging is good and all, but it doesn't replace real conversation).

[meleleh]

i realized one thing lately, as we get older, we have less friends. i've become less and less tolerant of others' behaviors that don't suit my ideals, so yea thus have less friends. but friends are people you're comfortable with right. if there's too many of them, life is such a tiring activity.

when i studied abroad, i spent days only at school and home. have only few friends. there were days where i never actually spoke to the point i forgot my own voice. it's was a really hard period in my life. i'm still abroad now for different purpose, but nothing actually change, the same like before. things are still hard, but i'm somewhat used to being alone. it's actually unimaginable for someone who in high school had so many friends who cared about me. but yea, things changes over time right.
i suppose you're still young? doesn't have friends now doesn't mean you won't in the future, just as long as you haven't turned into a permanent anti social.. like me.

[ninasandrap]

i do have one friend and i can say that she is really a real friend. but there came a time when she used me and i hate it. i really don't like the idea of having many friends because the more you have the more the consequences, the merrier though. but im afraid of betrayal that's why i stick to one friend.

but i realize i must not give everything for a friend. its okay to have friends as many as you want but try not to be affected when they try to hit you on your back.

[Yutaka]

i never really had any friends
because i had major depression and anger issues durring my school years
i don't have many friends anymore.
the friends i had either moved due to jobs and work or just don't give a fuc- about me.
last year 2 of my best friends died in a car accident caused by a drunk driver on new year.
the only good friends i have now are on the internet

[jenriel]

hahaha.. me have a real friends but I dont have any friends to hang out with..
we talked all about anime, girls, and anything that related on the real and 2d world..
whenever i need there help(advice, school work ,money) they are always open for me..

me have an advice to you..
:Just be yourself and some day you will find your true friends, maybe they are not good or sometimes they are boring..
but it is better to have a real boring friend than a fake cool friend..
(based on my experience nahahaha!!!|)\
(•w•)

[JenOtaku]

`Yeah. I don't really think that I have REAL friends. I know they're just being PLASTICS.

`I hate Plastics. but sometimes I'm having fun with them being around.

`I have REAL friends I think?
`Oh, I can count them.

`I have soooo many friends. but some of them are not REAL.
`tch.

`I have friends I can talk with, about Anime.
`And I think they're my REAL friends. :)))

[request1100]

I have friends...but not real friends.
I have different kinds of friends...anime friends, gaming friends, jamming friends, and other friends...
but the real friend I have is myself...

i think it's impossible to have real friends...well, depends on you, that is...

[lolkaitlin]

I had a weird thought bubble about something like this once upon a time.

It was a while back when my main group of friends began shifting around and some of us were getting closer to others. I was feeling like I was left behind and I realized that I didn't have anyone I could run to if I was in a lot of trouble.

But you know what? Today, I'm best friends with most of those people I was unsure about, cutting off the others that made me feel much more uneasy than usual. So basically, the friends I thought I didn't have were right in front of me. They ARE right in front of me.

It's not hard to find close friends for the most part. Just be yourself around people and whoever you find turning to you and giggling when you make a joke under your breath is a keeper.

[muddz]

Our teacher asked us to make a research paper of any topic. I've been thinking and decided to think if I have friends I mean real friends so chose the topic friendship. now after starting to make my research paper I realized that I don't have friends I mean yeah it's true that I have friends but the thing is I don't think that they are really real and that they would still be there once I graduate. I'm starting to hate myself for not having friends at all I just wanted to share this to you guys so might you might think again if you really have friends cause I don't. I really hate myself because of this.:touched:

Wow. that's really brave of you to face that deep question
and admit an answer to yourself right away! I salute you..

I have been asking that same question myself over the years
especially right after highschool.
It wasn't easy for me, I tell you.
with me getting used to being with my group of friends all the time
and suddenly finding myself all alone.
I was really confused, angry, lost and a little depressed and lonely.
lonely despite meeting up with them from time to time. weird right?
i found some new set of friends, great people but i found myself
like there's an automatic switch or something to not get so attached.
its like from what happened to me, my mind was on guard or something.
so i really wasn't able to connect deeper with them.
i was myself with them around and we all had laughs but guess i was afraid.

i think i'm getting korny now..ahaha.but seriously..
after searching myself and really finding the real answer
to that question [getting kornier..pardon me..ahaha]
i was finally able to admit that i don't have friends..real ones..
i mean yeah, i had such a great time with them, some unforgettable times blah blah..
but deep inside i know, i don't have that one person who'll stand by with u no matter what kinda friend..
it took awhile for me to process and absorb that..and then i felt free..[i know, it's a little dramatic..ahaha]

and now, i have found a friend in my sister, brother..my father..
they were there all along..i just didn't care to look back..
and some real ones that i know are for keeps!


:] :]

you're thread was really helpful! thanks furufe rika!
good luck with your research paper! gambatte!

hope you find the bestfriend you've always been looking for!

[tambulance]

There was a time in my life that the only "real friends" I had was family members. We stuck together like a pack of wolves. There was also one other guy we all knew and he became a friend of sorts. It wasn't till I met this girl who was a friend of a friends. She ended up talking to me often and wanted to get to know me better. I kept her at a distance. I just didn't trust anyone outside of family.I guess I was always scared that friends would just leave.. and I didn't want to have to go through that. So this girl picked up on what I was doing and wouldn't allow it. She kept on messing with me until finally I broke. That was like 7 years ago. She is still one of my best friends. And since meeting her I realized that the only way I can truly have real close friends is to go out and make them. Like she did. If I want a good friend I find someone and start off by getting to know them and then just keep being a good friend. Sooner or later a bond or close friendship grows. It takes trust and time and patience. But it can be done.

Now I look at everyone I meet as a potential friend. I don't judge or assume anything unless they give me reason to. I try to be a very good friend to everyone. Even if they aren't my friend I treat them as such so all they have to do is decide to be a friend back or not. May sound crazy but I find being open and nice that way allows people to open up and trust me more.


That goes for all of you also.

[SushilovesNori]

@Furude rika:

I was once told a very wise phrase that helped me get through a lot of personal dislike towards myself. The phrase was "In the end, the only friend we are born and die with, is ourselves. As such, love yourself, be your best of friends, treat yourself well, and you will see that as you grow to love yourself, others will want to love you too."

Friendship is a very very fickle thing. Knowing who to rely on, who to trust, is something that we're all still learning and will continue learning about until the day we take our very last breath. That isn't to say that you are all alone in this world. In fact it's the opposite. As a human being you should never want to bend over backwards in order to gain someones affections, and you should also never be so firm that they feel that they could never garner yours.

If at the end of the day, you can look in the mirror and say "I was a good person today. I liked myself today. Today I did NOTHING I should be ashamed of or apologize for. Today I knew who I was and I stood by my core beliefs." then you already have a very good supportive friend. That would be you.

Friends outside of yourself are like gold fish that you try to catch at festivals in a paper net. It takes practice to figure out which ones will A) survive the paper net, B) Stay in the net long enough to make it into a bowl, C) will be happy enough in the bowl so as not to wither away too quickly. When you find a friend who sticks around even after they see the not so nice or pretty side of you, treat them well. When you find a friend willing to jump through fire and hoops with you, treat them like family. When you find a friend who is happy existing in your world, make sure you keep your world inviting. But if your friend contaminates your world, makes you feel bad about yourself, or harms you in any way, learn when it's right to walk away.

I can't say that this is foolproof, but I can say that I am much happier now that I don't have false people in my life, than I was when I allowed them in.

[darkwind]

same here I have a lot of friends but I don't have a friend who I hang out most of the time *sigh*

[JenOtaku]

`Hm.. I have many friends, but I don't think some of them aren't real at all. I can't tell sometimes, if they're just being plastic around me.

`But I have these two friends, we're exchanging secrets all the time and those secrets, you can't hear it anywhere, meaning, they're really keeping it and not telling others about it, and I think those two are my real friends. And I love them both! ♥

[Carole]

for me, it doesn't matter if you have real friends, as long you have your family, and above.
friends is enough to kill your time. real friends nowadays are really hard to find, some of this were found
out through their childhood until they grow some balls. that's it

-let us face the reality. life's like this :)
well, its not too late to find one, go grab the opportunity. God bless

[coldground93]

I have many casual friends but real friends, I don't think I have one...
It's my nature to be socially withdrawn.. so if you compare it.. I have a rather weak ties with my friends..so I always left behind... not that i mind though

[Kobowo]

hmmm having "real" friends depends on how you define a friend...there are people who consider a person they've talked to once as a friend while there are also people who only consider a person their true friend if they've been through alot together and such...

as for me I consider a person a friend if I have communicated with him/her[be it through the net or IRL] for a unmber of times and if I find something in common for us :3 and yes I believe I do have real friends. Friends that I can truly trust and would stick with me high or low :3

[furude rika]

Well I envy those who think or really have real friends the only reason that I doubt my friends is because when I was in elem I thought I had a real frined but when we took or separate ways in this case hs I realized that she wasn't much of a friend at all. When we met about 3 years ago she just said HI and then ignored me. Well I guess I should congratulate those who have friends not envy them. I'd like to thank muddz and the others for understanding me and for the rest thanks for your advice

[blackXgurl]

Good friends are few but all the others are only acquaintance. But 100% can not rely on any. The more frequently you meet witch your friends then you have a better relationship. At least witch me. The more friends the more difficult to meet them all. I have one childhood friend. Whatever happens we will always be friends as we have talked. We have already gone throught it. Yet I have two good friends who always help if there is time. Another is simply two friends which meets less frequently. One of them living another country and traveling to visit two times a year. Of course I have many acquaintance.

[Qualtz]

Good friends are few but all the others are only acquaintance. But 100% can not rely on any. The more frequently you meet witch your friends then you have a better relationship. At least witch me. The more friends the more difficult to meet them all. I have one childhood friend. Whatever happens we will always be friends as we have talked. We have already gone throught it. Yet I have two good friends who always help if there is time. Another is simply two friends which meets less frequently. One of them living another country and traveling to visit two times a year. Of course I have many acquaintance.

sounds too great.

[kamizaki]

well, i have my friends ( True Friends ) always there for me.
i am really really thankful to them. they always help me
with my prob i can share them my ideas and problems.
they listen to me as well...

[Aviansjeff]

well, i have my friends ( True Friends ) always there for me.
i am really really thankful to them. they always help me
with my prob i can share them my ideas and problems.
they listen to me as well...

me too bro....im very thankful that i have my friends that is there for me when i am sad nor alone..
as u know we all have same weakness on the past and now we conquer it and its because of my friends help and advice.. ^^,

[kamizaki]

me too bro....im very thankful that i have my friends that is there for me when i am sad nor alone..
as u know we all have same weakness on the past and now we conquer it and its because of my friends help and advice.. ^^,


yeah.. we survive. hope that one of our friend realize it that we are here always for him.

[Aviansjeff]

yeah.. we survive. hope that one of our friend realize it that we are here always for him.

yeap! ur right i think that he needs more time to think...and realize what he is doing right now..we as his friends jst respect his decision and give some needed advice for his what so ever emotional depression of what he feels right now.. ^^,

[kamizaki]

yeap! ur right i think that he needs more time to think...and realize what he is doing right now..we as his friends jst respect his decision and give some needed advice for his what so ever emotional depression of what he feels right now.. ^^,

yeah.. for now, lets just respect him. i know someday he would realize it, whats missing on his life.

[Bunislipper]

Listen, you may not have "real" friends right now. At some point in my life I didn't have "real" friends either...if something was wrong with them I would try my VERY best to help them and Id drop anything for them but whenever it would come to me being the one upset...they would just say something along the lines of "aww you okay?" that's it. That's all I would get in return from them. As soon as I realised this I actually LEFT them and even though for a long time I hated myself and I felt like I have NO friends at all and I actually thought the STUPIDEST thing ever...that having fake friends were better than having no friends at all...thats a lie. Its exactly the same thing having no friends and fake friends is the same :/ but listen, eventually you will meet new people and now that I look back at those fake friends I think to myself...waw...I'm SO happy that I actually LEFT them! I was so proud of myself for what I did and I think that is what you should do too...you'll meet people who are true friends soon :) Don't worry
xxx

[qwertyuiop10]

Our group has 4 people were all friends
i only know that one of them is my real fried
but the two i dont knnow
I cant say that 90 percant of my batchmates are my friends

but i think i can call myself luck because i had real friend and i can tell that our friendship wont break after well graduate this year

[furude rika]

Alright I'll just have to wait until I find them right

[Ephenyan]

I have at least one real friend. But sadly, the rest are just either the usual people that come and go
or the short-time-met people we all call acquaintances.

But I'll quote the person who said this from above:
"Real friends come from normal friends in my opinion"

True. She came from being an acquaintance to being the person I exchange swears, tears and laughs.
My advice? Go out more. Explore a bit more. Talk. There might come an event where someone can bump into you
and both of you might somehow share memories together. You never know, that person might just become your bestfriend :)

[ninasandrap]

i don't have friends because im not the type of a person who would just talk to anyone anytime anywhere.. i talk when there's a need for me to talk. im a shy type, so im not friendly whatsoever.

but now i have decided to gain some friends because lately i realized that having friends is somehow important for us be a real person.......

[lemonsquare]

Wow! That was heavy! :( Having no REAL friends?? That's so sad. (hoping I'm not making your feeling worse, sorry)

For me, there are different kinds of friends. The first kind: Acquainted Friends, these are the people who you generally like but no deep connection. Second: Buddies, these are the people who usually hang out with. When you are with them you're very happy and you can share secrets with them. Third: Best Friend/s: These/he/she are/is the one/s who you really know that they know yourself. Meaning, they understand you when you can't express yourself with them.

And, luckily I have my all kinds of friends! Yay! :)
The Acquainted Ones, Buddies, and Best Friend. :) I know they are my friends because we tend to help each other when we are trouble or we goof around like there's no tomorrow. Don't worry, here in OS we can be your Buddies or Best Friend if you like. :P hehehe.

[DwinLylthx]

I Don't have Real friends at School but I have real friends out of the school. Whenever we Relocate they came to Visit us on Our New House Even Its Far. I've been with them for years so I can really say they're Real and True Friends. We Had Strong Bonds together. :)

[xuei0000]

I have thought of these question once in a while but thinking about it just make me feel depressed..

I really don't know if I really have REAL friends.. HUMANS wear masks and it's really scary knowing that those people who are close to you are not REALLY CLOSE at all.. It's up to them if they are really that REAL person.. BUT either they are REAL or not.. I still consider them as friends thought not really that REAL, because I am really sensitive when it comes to making REAL once..

I am in college.. and I don't really consider my current friends as REAL.. I just notice that in COLLEGE.. we have our own separate lives and people are more concerned about it..
BUT AT LEAST.. we should gave trust to someone once in a while.. btw, I consider my best friend as my REAL FRIEND.. though we are apart from each other~

[Anytimelol]

I think I have a decent number of friends but none who id call "true friends". I think trying to trust people is very hard for me to do even with friends I've known for a long time. I generally keep feelings and emotional things to myself I find its better that way.

[btm69]

to me, i have thought abt this question of whether i have friends again and again. and the conclusion that i have drawn up is that i don't need people to be nice to me and comfort me whenever i am sad or have problems. all i want to do is to be empathetic and kind to others. if i can make others happy then i would be happy. and maybe then there would be friends who would be willing to do the same for me too. but i don't ask for much, cos the greater the expectation the greater the disappointment. so... yeap :/ whateverrrr xD XD teeheee

[rinoa]

It's interesting how you chose friendship as a topic and this is actually one of those life moments that you happen to think and re-evaluate your life. I had the same question with me since elementary school (so early huh) and even from then I don't have friends now. Only friends that I count to be with me is my family and current boyfriend who I've been with for 7 years. I do have a 'friend' that I've known and kept in touch with for 10 years, but as always I question our 'friendship'. It's honestly what you think friendship means to you. It could mean different things to different people. I know some who believe that as long as the person is there to be nice to you and treat you nicely that their a friend. Some consider friends to be someone who would take a bullet or go out of their way to help you. I have to say though that friends come and go, but it's those that you consider your friends at that time that means the most. You can't keep your friends forever. Soon it's gonna happen where you have to part ways. I honestly think that ones who make an effort to stay and want to keep in touch your true friends who know what and who is important to them.

[sAvAgE gEnIoUs]

I don't really talk to my friends/acquaintances from high school anymore. Once I went to college I made new friends. Just be nice and you can make new friends wherever you go.

[kimono031]

For a long period of my life, mainly most of my childhood, I didn't have any real friends - just people I could hang out with. They invited me to their birthday parties, I would play with them during recess, we would be group partners in class - the usual - but I have always felt some sort of disconnect. I usually just go with the flow and adapt to whatever life throws at me, be it making "friends" or going through hardships. It wasn't until Middle school/secondary school, that I realized all of this - I realized that I actually didn't have a lot, if any, friends that would be there for me. The first few weeks of middle school I just went with the flow. I hung out with previous elementary school kids and new kids that I had recently just met. It wasn't until I found a steady group where I could hang out in did I somewhat felt I belonged in, but even then I felt a disconnect.

It wasn't until I moved away and entered high school in a brand new area with brand new people did I learn to make real friends. By this time, I figured I could start over, and make friends with people I know would be there for me - and I did.

I still have "friends" now, but nothing is wrong with them - they're still cool. As long as I have one, two, or even a handful of real friends - I'm good c:
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I'm not really sure what I was trying to get at by posting this, but I just wanted to get some of my thoughts out there.

[KhenLee202]

we are thesame, i so have many friends but neither one of them i consider a true friend or best friend, i always get jealous when i see my friends pic, having bonding with his or her True friends

[MisaaxPyonn♥]

typically what is your idea of a 'real' friendship, my general idea is that a bond that cannot be broken no matter what has happened and if the bond for some reason was to break becomes easily repaired as forgiveness enters the way you act. i sympathise for your thoughts but you cant truly know if or if you dont have friends can you ? i mean people have definitions on whethere they are a true friend or not but how can you really be sure you dont have friends ?

[aishe89]

Well, I i have true friends now. Not much but I know they're real.
I used to be surrounded by friends during high school, they were actually just fake friends they just used me for free food and place to hang out. I just realized it when one of my classmate told me that they were just using me. After that I became cautious. So now I have few friends but at least they're true. :3

[Nichibotsu]

Dear Furude. I am quite the same way. But look at it this way: which are you more comfortable with? More acquaintances than real friends, or more friends than acquaintances? For me, I'm more comfortable having fewer real friends because I can easily see who needs to be taken care of, or who would help me out of everyone I know. Don't beat yourself up because you don't have any friends. Remember that it takes very special people to become true friends that share the same bond, including yourself.

Stress can easily bend your judgement in the wrong direction. Why do you feel that these friends aren't really real? Did something happen [or didn't happen] for you think this way? It wouldn't hurt to discuss what's bothering you [because humans cannot read minds]. Maybe they will react differently, or even help you. If they do not even try in the least, then you can cross them off, and find someone else. You never know unless you ask. Sorry if this seems like a long story, but I wish the best of fortune to you. Thank you for reading this.

[sachiakina19]

of course i have...a FEW TRUE FRIENDS I CAN CALL. a lot of acquaintances. these days it's so hard to find true friends you can be with until you grow old. have met a lot of "unworthy ones", that's why i'm so picky when it comes to picking friends. -_-

[pooghost]

I got 1 REAL friend. And we've been friends for 11 of my 15 years here on earth.
lotsa not REAL friends. That's how life is, i guess :/

[kurimei]

@pooghost same here nekolover and me are childhoodfriends in 11 years i think :D

[kyou01]

I only have 2 real friends
at first I thought it was 3 because I have this childhood friend
I know her since I was a kid she always go to our house to play and when we turned 10 years old their family decided to move to New Zealand, at first 2 months of her being away she always contact me because she's so lonely there, she don't have any friends but as time goes by she almost forgot about me I can still contact her but every time I talk to her she don't feel comfortable with me now, she share a lot of secret to her new friends but she never told me a single secret of hers so I feel like I lose one friend

and now I have 2 best friends
I met the first one when I was first year I was a new student at that school, and she was my first friend I'm always with her but when we turned second year high school my mom decided to move me to a new school, AGAIN

in my new school I met another person even if we are in different sections he become a close friend of mine he call me Arthur (I don't even know why he suddenly called me like that)

during my vacation the friend that I had when I was first year keeps telling me that she will transfer to the school where I currently study because she totally miss me

and now even if I lose my childhood friend I got 2 new friends and I'm happy just to have them with me they always help me when I'm being bullied, when I'm in trouble , and when I need them

everytime there will be an event related to anime we never fail to go there and cosplay

I may have plenty of friends in school but I cannot call them real friends they are just there for me WHEN THEY NEED SOMETHING but most of the time they are not there, they are always leaving me behind and I'm so glad I have those 2 best friends

don't worry ^^ I know you will find your real friend soon just keep looking around and open your eyes I know you will find the friends that you are looking for

[akatsuki]

i have lot's of friends but i have one real friend...
my imaginary friend... =)

[shairokinixi]

The word friendship is what i regretted most...
always remember that when you really found a friend never let them go
and you can only see ur true friend when you dont think about them but then they think about you

Oh and by the way once a friend is lost... they will never return the way they are before... so treasure every single friend... hahaha and i have tons of friends! but few called "true friends"

[krishna123]

i have some several FRIENDS which i can call a TRUE FRIENDS and valued very much! :bingo:
my FRIENDS and i have shared the SADNESS and HAPPINESS for almost 7years now! :goodjob:
and we still share a STRONG band of BROTHERHOOD with each other!
i think it's FATE that brought us together even though we are far now because of our WORK!
:wahaha:

[lastshin]

I have friends well at first they're just my classmates
well in our group I'm the only otaku but still they don't mind cause we all have different interest,
my advice for you, well just hang with them sometimes and get to know them more :3

[evilwil]

All have friend or real friends!.....all of us have friends! to think that a person needs a friend is like thinking a water need hydrogen and oxygen to become water!....if you wanna gain true friend do what you usually do and if some persons would interact with you concerning your hobby or your likes then go befriend those persons!

[solidoxygen]

I feel sorry for all of you people who wonder whether or not you have "true friends."

Let me tell you that it's much simpler when you have a total of zero friends. Worried about offending someone, afraid of someone backstabbing you, or are you worried you might lose a friend and never see them again? Well if you have no friends you don't have to worry about any of these worrisome trifles anymore!

Silly friend-having people; you will never know the bliss of having no obligations to these friends you speak of.

[Shoutbux]

Nope...I dont cause all my friends come and go...

[furude rika]

I finally realized it I do have friends.....I recently graduated from Highschool and yeah They are still my friends.... For those who think the same way I used to........ I only have one tip try to wait and soon you'll realize that you really do have friends


I feel sorry for all of you people who wonder whether or not you have "true friends."

Let me tell you that it's much simpler when you have a total of zero friends. Worried about offending someone, afraid of someone backstabbing you, or are you worried you might lose a friend and never see them again? Well if you have no friends you don't have to worry about any of these worrisome trifles anymore!

Silly friend-having people; you will never know the bliss of having no obligations to these friends you speak of.
Don't you have any friends?

[Naruhina101]

well you know dude.. when i was in elementary i really though that i wouldn't have a good friend... as time goes by i found a best friend that stay last long until now... then when i reach highschool i found another one.. you know dude..
friendship depends on how you take it... sometimes trials are there but surely you can pass it..!!

[hotshot75]

I believe all otakus have friends. They just need to find the right ones to be their friends.

[MamabearX3]

I have a few "real" friends that I can talk with about anything. I have my friend that has been my friend since we met in Jr High. She was my maid of honor, there in the room with me when I gave birth to my second (she rushed home from San Diego to see my first born), I was in the room when she had her first. We've gone on school trips together, live together after high school and have just been like sisters. This friend drags me out on weekends to do sushi (like this week, too much Japanese beer!) and all her marketing events. This weekend we went to a 21 and up show and I was witness to more pictures of penis's than I needed. But that's the kind of silly things we do.

I then have my friend I met at work in '98. She's crude, rude and I can be myself around her. She's my drinking and other adult things friend, my gossip buddy and my get away from kids and husbands buddy. I have a few others I'm close with, but these 2 are my closest.

I also have my sister and her roommate (who I call my sister). My sisters 5 years younger than me, but she's one of my best friends. When we were kids, 5 years was a lot, but now it's no big deal.

The older I got the more I cut my close circle down. I don't have enough time to waste it with the people I don't want to be with. So having just a few friends is completely normal and OK. You should just be with the people that make you happy.

[skyprincess]

yeah I have "friends" but I count my friends as enemys unless I truly let you in and get to know me.
I talk to people and make nice and all that wonderful stuff.
You'll know for real if your my True Friend or not because you'll see me cry. I've only ever let 3people see me cry, real tears.
But I do have friends who I wouldn't call True Friends....yet
but with All my friends, I stick up for em and by em through everything.

[adampeach]

just the voices in my head and the inhabitants of otaku streamers but it's hard to define what a true friend is you may think someone is a true friend bout it's could be just a rouse. there are really only 1 friend i would trust my life with we discuss anything with each other and if we find that one of us did something wrong we will settle it with fists and laugh about it when its done

[KittyCat]

Hmm mostly im friends with some people but then they just turn on you.

[Tsrohrab]

I've got a lot of friends... but only 3 really good friends who i can share anything with at anytime!!
Love those guys

[DarkDenizen]

My real friends are just my Siblings and cousins only...

[zevri]

The ones I had in high school/college I tend to lose contact with. Unfortunately I don't really get attached to people all that much so it is hard to build any sort of bond that lasts. I tend to lose interest and move on. I do have some gaming friends online, though relationships like that are easier to maintain since it is less involved than a "RL" friendship/relationship.

[Death Master]

In the classroom actually my friends are the 3/4 of the class. We all friends trust each other. But my closest friends are only three and we three are always together. XD

[awnaman123]

that's too bad for you :/

hm ...

i have friends though i'm still thinking if they are real friends :/

but u can really tell if those friends of urs are really real friends
when they are ready to help you when u are at ur worst.

[Joey13]

I know how you Feel.
This School Year i was separated from my friends,
They were in different sections but i felt alone in my class.
But i had 3 friends there so i didn't feel Really alone.
But they always treat me like thin air so i told myself to make friends
Now i'm friends with all my classmates :)

[NestyBamba]

I Got friends and I know they will not leave me what ever it takes are bond is strong, you can feel it if you will be always by there side or vice-versa. it's easy to get a friend but it was hard to get a true friend that was my conclusion.

[Pikkewyn]

I do have a few good friends, who I know for at least nine years. Although we rarely see each other, it still feels like we're great friends when we see each other.

[prettiiangel]

I have friends lots of friends but among them no one is considered as my best friend but I can rely on them. :D I had only one true friend to be called and it's sad to recall that she is gone now. :(

[kyube08]

I also don't have real friends. I count them as friends if they like to spend time with me. :gsg28:

[SiouxsieRen]

I have no friends...the people i hang out with and talk to at school are just acquaintances...

[eriel529]

I don't have a lot of friends but I still have a few