Can girls and boys be good friends? [Archive] - Otaku-Streamers

Bindu1000

02-20-2009, 11:27 AM

tw1st3ds

02-20-2009, 06:59 PM

I can agree to it, either way though it 'is' a possibility that such a thing can happen but, it is 'rarely' equal in feelings of friendship... It also differs on some people, most probably don't know they have the feeling until they witness some type of scene... "Why the hell am I getting jealous?" Type of thing. I don't know if I explained it right but hopefully it made little sence.

skywalk3r

02-20-2009, 08:25 PM

I do have friends. We're close to each other with no heart feelings. Well I don't know if this kind of feeling will go on.

clownman

02-20-2009, 10:49 PM

In any extended friendship regardless of circumstances i think at some point one of the people think about it, even if they don't act upon it.

russj

02-21-2009, 01:44 AM

scasia

02-21-2009, 09:32 AM

That happen to me 2 or 3 years ago..when I'm still in primary school...I'm close to my friend who was sitting behind me...but since we went to a different junior high school, we lost contact...:emh09:
but on that time, all of my classmates were making fun of us...:emh09:

skywalk3r

02-21-2009, 10:19 AM

hatsukashi dana.. I wanna be in elem again. We're the same scasia.

bootwhistle

02-21-2009, 11:36 PM

is it possible to win the lottery? of course... everything is possible..
including that..it can even happen to two boys or two girls O.O

dont see why it shouldnt..
the question should be what are the chances of that happening..

the scenario you gave sounds like it came off a movie or novel or something..

as for me i am very close with alot of girls, all individually. so far i have never fallen for any of them. im pretty sure they havent/didnt fall for me either..*if you know me in real life you'd know why*

hmmm im not gay.. just in case your wondering...

EDIT: grammar.. God im tired...

I have to agree with the majority of posts, it mostly comes down to personalities of the different people and other factors. While possible, it really depends on the situation...
For example, childhood friends would probably find it a lot easier to keep a friendship than say a two people who've known each other about a month. Then again if the latter were both only looking for friendship while the former had one party that suddenly had strong feelings and decided to act on them, the situation reverses.

That was a bit overly complicated but in general I guess I'm of the opinion, it really depends on the people involved.

Hmm, I could write more but I get the feeling that would be like opening up a can of worms (you know I never really got that expression... who on Earth canned worms in the first place?) so to give a simple answer to the original question:

Can two people of the opposite sex be good friends?
- Yes,
*without developing romantic feelings?
- like all things in life, it's an unknown, we all just have to live and learn.
(edit, just realized that sounded a bit pretentious, so a better answer would be: meh, I dunno?)

Bindu1000

02-22-2009, 01:08 AM

Hahaha - interesting points.

I used to think men and women can be good friends and I still do- Yes, you can be good friends with the opposite sex.
But as you keep getting older I have realised that you cannot be "best" friends with the opposite sex ... you know hang on the phone for hours, go places together ... etc.

Either one will develop feelings for the other, coz your'll agree on most everything and that feeling of closeness and shared feelings will get deeper
Or when one finds a partner (and they will) the partner will get possessive of the attention being given the friend.
So then it ends up being good friends (if the other can stomach the partner and is willing to be friends with him/her as well)

digi0009

02-22-2009, 01:54 AM

I think they can b good friends as long as one of them is completely not interested , i think that can happen bt it is also true that even good friends at some point of time, umm lets say they start missing their friend n feel jealous if their friends are in close relationship with others, it's pretty much true,
But still, i think it is possible , it is very possible among mature people, i can't say the same bout teens n all, they are kinda brainless ,
But i've seen plenty of good girl-guy friends , so,, i know a girl n guy can also be best friends !!

scasia

02-23-2009, 09:56 PM

woah Sky....
so did you have any clue of her?? I just know that he is still in the same city with me...but don't know where he is...

harold-san

02-24-2009, 03:39 AM

uhmmm.....it really depends on the person nor group or the situation....

i have been experiencing that... my good friend.. almost 5 years.. and that year.. she tell me that she has a heart feeling for me... coz of the year goes.. she develop.. naaaaaaaaahhh

it really depends on the opposite sex... blah blahh blahh... hehehe

neilclarence

02-28-2009, 07:10 AM

Is there any reason why boys & girls can't be good friends? It's not impossible to be good friends with the opposite sex, for the "special feelings" though, It depends on what your friend thinks about you, if your friend is the "tsundere" type or the "has a way with girls type-o-guy" believe me IT won't happen, I've experienced it first hand XD

ninda19

02-28-2009, 08:56 AM

boys and girls are just a bit different. why they can't be such a good friends? they can, but in one condition...accept each other's personal behaviour and way of thinking willingly! it'll work!

FluffynpinK

02-28-2009, 10:16 AM

KaiserDragon

02-28-2009, 11:16 AM

Not only is it possible for me it has happened, one of my best friends is a girl and we have been good friends for the longest of time (about 20 years now) and we dont have romantic feelings for each other... I remember one night we were drunk together and we fumbled our way into a kiss... it just didnt feel right and from that day on we had an unspoken rule that we never spoke of that night, and she obliged me by setting me up with some of her female friends who were all first rate in one way or another but nothing seemed to come of it, fact is she is happy with he current bf and that completely fine by me... I think everyone wonders what it would be like, but at the end of the day when you have known someone as long as I have know here it kinda feels like kissing a member of your own family.

lankrie

04-01-2009, 01:17 AM

agree too..
i can be friends with both same and opposite sex..even the person that have both sex (u know what kind of)
well it just friends..good to have many type of friends..

Neite

04-01-2009, 06:13 AM

My best friend and I have had that kind of relationship for 8 years, so I think it's possible ^_^

Njaaks

04-02-2009, 02:11 PM

yes i think so cause i know so

I have friend(girl) who is like a sister to me... we crew up togheter and we get along really good and we are really close but there are no romantic feeling between us

credential23

04-02-2009, 08:19 PM

Different voices, different choices
Some are mad, while others laugh
Some live alone with no better half

Some are friends and some are foes
Some have some while some have most

-Franis M. \m/

alrius2000

04-03-2009, 08:41 AM

I would say its possible.
If both of them dont fancy each other.

fatcharley

04-04-2009, 07:23 PM

Of course they can be friends.
I have friends that are boys.
My friends that are girls have loads of friends that are boys but don't think of the in that way.
One of my friends has a very close friend that is a boy and thinks of him as her brother & they act like siblings.

T ~san you guys have to have a lot of friends and dogs otherwise you would freeze to death in the winter lol (three dog night ???)

gooms

04-04-2009, 09:00 PM

yes! b'coz girls and boys are ment to be frnds literary!^__^ and if a girl and a boy can't be frnd..how can they become lovers?..and therefor love can't be or will not sprout..

langging

04-25-2009, 06:14 AM

uhmm..yes..i have a lot of boy friends..cuz in my course all most all of my classmate is boys so i have no choice but to be friend with them

koedt

04-25-2009, 07:31 AM

Of course a boy and a girl can have deep friendship without either of the side without having feeling for each other.

I think that happens even more than the situation ended up in a one-sided love or both of them with hidden feelings.

BibiChan

04-26-2009, 09:29 AM

Yup they can ^_^ it doesn't matter where they met or for how long they've been friends, it's mainly how their personalities interact, what kind of people they are, what tastes they have and the TYPE of relationships they share. They are different from people to people...
Of course... the way their separate love relationships develop and the way they might prefer people might end up to a love story if you're TOO close.
The line between friendship and love is sometimes so fragile ~_~, but as long as one isn't interested, everything is fine and the signals wont show.
The best method to keep an good friendship relation with the other sex is to remember that friends are friends, they help, give advice, hang out sometimes, are supportive... but it's not such a good idea to talk each day just with that person and transform him/her into your personal secret weilder, touch too much or go out just the two of you too much... You know... use with precaution XD
Follow your gut though! lol

AniAni

04-26-2009, 09:58 AM

Bibi bibi bibi
...
xD my little smarty ass
If the most of ppl say that friendship without love feelings can exist between girl and boy they are the same wrong and right.
If boy or girl having fun time ,and likes each other like a very good friend then there are other barrier between theyre friendship and love feelings.
umm... if boy have a gf and boy have a best or very good friend girl then his gf can complain about that, and best friends can end theyre friendship in a second.
lol xD
idk what i wanted to say by that, but that girl could feel brokenhearted by a friend
ya know when one person feels worse then others...and can do less then others :l
so yeah boy and girl can be friends ,very good friends when other peron in theyre friendlife dont appears
:44:

DoubleZeta

04-27-2009, 05:06 PM

This is rather hard to answer... I can say that it really depends on the situation. Coz either way, boys and girls can be friends or not.

yoyoyoyou

05-07-2009, 10:34 AM

Boys and girls can be good friends. I know from experience. This guy friend of mine definitely has no special feelings for me, I'm sure. I even helped him make the arrangements for his confession to this girl he especially likes. We often come to each other for advice too.

DoubleZeta

05-07-2009, 06:54 PM

I don't have that much female friends but I believe it can happen. It's just a matter of personality right?

kuyah

05-07-2009, 07:26 PM

tonyu56

05-07-2009, 08:48 PM

I think its impossible except for
A: When they treat each other like siblings
B: One of them has had SERIOUS relationship issues
or
C: They tried to go out awhile ago and failed and now just wanna be friends

DoubleZeta

05-07-2009, 10:06 PM

It would be better if we give several examples and cover all angles. Not all situations are the same as they aforementioned. So, why don't we tackle all possible angles and see whether or not what is the best thing to say.

My example:

Many girls come up to me when in need. You can call this as an act of friendship, for they'll be talking to me and I'll be replying back. I really don't mind helping people (especially girls. XD), but it would not go up to the part of being friends.

I know that they don't really want to be friends... or if they do, I won't allow being close to them. They'll just use me up for their grades.

(It would be possible if ever both the parties agree fully of friendship. If not, it would be impossible.)

Shinkirou

05-08-2009, 06:30 AM

@thread: Of course. We have seen society yet and yet again - it is possible be good friends with the opposite sex without harboring any romantic feelings.

Well, as Zeta said too, it also matters on the situation. Albeit the same can be the said with same sex too, and not limited to the opposite.

Bitter experience, Zeta. But I do suggest that when helping them, act friendly too. I sometimes notice that you're too serious when dealing with them - girls aren't exactly good around your type, y'know?

bonki

06-20-2009, 02:09 AM

I think they can be friends but cant be best friends and hang out all the time with each other. Eventually one will fall in love with the other. If they both fall in love with each other, its good, if not there will be a broken heart in the future

vivien

06-20-2009, 05:22 AM

for me...yes!
I have a friend who is a boy...he's name is Arffy...
I think he don't have feelings on me...and I don't have feelings on him too...
I want him to be my friend who I can depend on...

ayhencute

06-29-2009, 12:32 PM

i say yes
i have many friends and most of them are boys
they are funny when they are hanging around each other
they can easily make me laugh that's why i like to hang around with them
but i don't feel like i have special feelings towards them

lyssa15

07-03-2009, 01:31 AM

Im in an all girls school so,ya, i guess i cant answer it correctly but i think ya, well actually it depends on the person.

aila19

07-11-2009, 11:44 AM

why not?? there' human both human beings,.. :D

Bindu1000

07-11-2009, 12:03 PM

Hahaha ... I think you all need to read the first post. I dont doubt whether they can stay friends, of course they can, but can they be 'best friends' without one falling for the other or when one finds a partner - can they stay at the same level of friendship?

aila19

07-11-2009, 12:07 PM

^^ think that's my story.. hahaha, but we can still be friends

Jarsha

07-11-2009, 02:03 PM

My best friend is a girl and unfortunately I do have feelings for her but why should I even let that come between us? If it does come to those feelings you have to let the other person know; if not they will eat you from the inside. As for being good friends as a girl it is easy for them to be good friends without developing feelings for guys it is an altogether different story. For us it is very hard to not get those kind of feelings. A woman wants to be in love, a man needs to be in love and will follow the first one to pull his heart strings. As others have said being friends is possible but its all given to the best woman of all; chance.

aila19

07-12-2009, 12:17 AM

as a girl it is easy for them to be good friends without developing feelings for guys

not reeeally.. sometimes girls tend to develop feelings faster than guys..

ontopic- that's really hard.. not falling for the other.. like me, I did fall inlove w/ my guy bestfriend, He's totally the ideal guy for me, cause I know what he's like, from the core to the shell.. since I'm he's bestfriend. but then he has no feelings for me so it's a one-sided love, and now I barely have feelings for him , since he is now happy w/ another girl, But we're still friends, up until now, giving him advice on how to's to the girl..

hokeymon

07-16-2009, 11:58 AM

Can't really tell. I have φόβος των κοριτσιών hahaha

It means I have Parthenophobia - Fear of virgins or young girls.

Well, not technically the virgins or young part ( Grin )
more like I'm an anti social when it comes to girls.

and I've just realize I fear this.. Venustraphobia - Fear of beautiful women.

Yeah, I've seen lots of my friends with girls. Just having fun and playing around. Most of them even have boyfriends.

jhai0603

08-22-2009, 08:22 AM

Sure.
Maybe.
It depends.
I have some girl friends.
And many of my girl friends have boy friends. =) haha

RizaJhay

08-22-2009, 11:02 AM

well yeah of course! me a girl and i have a friend that is a guy. we kinda hangout 2gether.....
were pretty close...well not dat close but we communicate...wat the heck! u get wat i mean....so yeah girls and boys can be good friends... not just good friends but can also be best friends :P

apophsis24

08-22-2009, 03:34 PM

yes it is possible .... however ..... while i may not want to be lovers with my female friends. i do however watch out for them ... its not the same kind of relationship as with my male friends ... and i apologize if you think this makes me a sexist ... Its just not the same kind of friendship .... the same but different i guess you could say .... i hope this helps

AnkokuRyuu

08-22-2009, 06:28 PM

it is possible, but one may unconciously start growing feelings for the other at some point, and then end up ruining the whole relationship when things dont work out!!! .... TT-TT

DarkPrinceKnight

08-22-2009, 07:02 PM

Sure.
Maybe.
It depends.
I have some girl friends.
And many of my girl friends have boy friends. =) haha

FLMAO hahaha, nice :emh22:

is it possible to win the lottery? of course... everything is possible..
including that..it can even happen to two boys or two girls O.O

dont see why it shouldnt..
the question should be what are the chances of that happening..

the scenario you gave sounds like it came off a movie or novel or something..

as for me i am very close with alot of girls, all individually. so far i have never fallen for any of them. im pretty sure they havent/didnt fall for me either..*if you know me in real life you'd know why*

hmmm im not gay.. just in case your wondering...

EDIT: grammar.. God im tired...

hahaha, I have to agree totally with that XD

it is possible, but one may unconciously start growing feelings for the other at some point, and then end up ruining the whole relationship when things dont work out!!! .... TT-TT

hmm... you sound like you have had experience with this... *backs away* XD jk jk~~!!!

but yea all in all, it is possible, but at one point in time (or because the other friends think those two would be great together, and blah blah blah ect. you know were this is heading any way :P), somethings gonna happen, next thing you know, one or the other, or even both at the same time, might grow feelings for the other :P, (I've seen it happen,... more than once now), and all it took was a banana, not a banana peal, just a regular banana XD mwahahahaha (I TOLD YOU IT ISN'T MY FAULT, IT MIGHT HAVE BEEN MY BANANA, BUT IT WASN'T ME WHO TOLD 'EM TO STEP ON IT!!!)

EDIT: forgot to add something XD

Bindu1000

08-22-2009, 09:35 PM

Hmmmm ... my question was not - can boy's and girl's be friends. Of course they can. I was asking can they be really "good" friends, like best friends, sharing everything. ... Think about it ......:4:

apophsis24

08-22-2009, 10:53 PM

yes .... add this to my comment above ..... yes they can its just a different level ... that is the only way i can describe it

naomi09

08-25-2009, 02:47 AM

sure as for my self i got a pack of friends which are all boys.. and two other girls we pretty get along well... specially about games anime.. and eating.. we hang out.. and some times I'm the only girl... its up to you if you would care if anybody or even you feel its awkward well for me it isn't.. XD..

...boys are a happier accompany than other girls.. because some times they would just stab you on the back.<-personal experience...

...naomi09 XD

alucardiume

09-02-2009, 04:30 PM

i dont like female friends as in your really close. but i prefer gay friends because they are still male..^_^. im not comfortable with women being friend because you might fall for her.. ^_^
I can be easily attracted to women near me. ^_^

Haruya

09-02-2009, 08:50 PM

No its not possible. Men and woman can only be drawn to eachother sexualy, I only believe this can happen if they were friends sense birth, Then it would be more of a brother sister thing, Or if the boy is only 11 and under, And if you do have a really good friend thats a guy they are gay, or they are hoping for things to get deeper, And if you have a good friend thats a girl she prolly wants you bad and you just dont know it. This is my P.O.V on that subject

~~

then on another note anything is possible =/

AAAARRGGGHHH!!! DOUBLE PASTA MAKES ME CATCH ON FIRE!!!!

Ephenyan

09-03-2009, 09:46 AM

of course it's possible. i have tons of male friends here and we treat each other like brothers/sisters. or so i think xD
i have a close friend who is a guy who has a girlfriend who confides and rants about how
much of a jealous type his girlfriend is, how come he is failing <insert subject here>, how life sucks, whether if he should break up with his girlfriend or something, etc... i think everyone needs someone to open up to regardless of gender

so yea, it's possible

jhai0603

09-03-2009, 09:50 AM

I'd rather befriend girls than ****... obviously because I'm against YAOI... or things like that...
No offense.

Girls and boys have multiple differences... Though that should be the reason to push them together... To explore each others' sides and discover new things. [You know what I mean.]

Edit : Lets not get carried away and start name calling people of different tastes, shall we? XD. OS Staff

Tippeddoor

09-03-2009, 06:06 PM

Lol its Quite funny because by your reasoning everyone i know is Gay, including all my family even the ones with kids :)
So really whoever told you that is Quite stupid dont you think ^_^

And no one is asking you to befriend Gays are they ?
So you keep trying to befriend girls and maybe one day they will give in ^_^

....Oh no offence....

So my answer is yet again boys and girls can be friends without anything happening :)

Comchien

09-03-2009, 06:22 PM

Boys and girls can be good friends. Does it really matter if your a boy or a girl ? Boys doesn't have to make friends with boys only. Sometime, boys get bored hanging out with their groups, same thing with girls. Thats why it doesn't matter if you hang out with a girl if you're a boy.

gamer45798

09-03-2009, 08:35 PM

ya its possible for two opposing sexs be good friends im good friends with 3 girl friends and i have no love feeling for any of them

AngelPrincess

09-17-2009, 02:30 AM

Of course ! As long there's no chemistry ... I think it's okay ne ~
because I have one . We grow up together until now for 14 years old .
We are not best friend because i already have best friend (girl) . He just close to me .

and lately I heard that he has an accident so I go visit him ...
poor him .
T_T

vaporeon200

09-17-2009, 02:48 AM

i have a Friend who is a Girl.... We are somewhat close... I know i don't like her that way.. and I know she doesn't like me that way.... ;)

jhai0603

09-17-2009, 06:45 AM

i'm quite close to some of the girls in our class.
I can fairly say that we're good friends. :)

lemonsquare

10-09-2009, 07:47 AM

It's very possible!! :)

but then all of you have so many good points of view. Hmm.
In my experience right now, I have that situation.
I have a close guy friend and we're always together.
I look up to him as a brother and he sees me as a his Little sister.

Hmm. i guess, it works for me.. :)

kaifox

10-09-2009, 08:21 AM

Its POSSIBLE!!

i can prove it!! because two of my classmates in opposite sex are very close its like they know all their secrets and when i ask the girl how do she fell about the guy she said "His just my friend that i can trust the most" and thats the same answer of the guy when I asked him..

PROVEN!! its up to you to believe!

Romdeau

11-25-2009, 03:49 PM

Yes, of course it's possible. Actually, about 77% of my friends are of the opposite sex. You don't need to eventually feel more for the other and start having romantic feelings. I think it's possible to be really good friends without falling for each other because of the gender.

OVirus53

11-26-2009, 04:43 AM

Do you think that its possible for two people of the opposite sex to be good friends without any romantic feelings?
I think its possible to be good friends, but one party will eventually feel more for the other. Also if one of the two get a partner, the really good friendship will have to come to an end, where they will still be friends, but not as close as before

Depends on how "good" these good friends are. If they hang out practically every day for six months, and they really enjoy being together, it's going to be hard for one not to feel romantic feelings for the other. I should know. :emhh15:

However, I believe it's possible. Not confirmed, nor busted. Just possible. :emh21:

pearairplane

12-13-2009, 11:12 PM

My best friend or rather former best friend as of a few months ago was female and we both had absolutely no romantic feelings for one another. I mean, when we became friends it started out as a mutual crush, but then when things started to progress we both realized that that's actually all it was. We were best friends for about 7 years.

kaifox

12-13-2009, 11:18 PM

wow thats a long progress pearairplane because 7 years you haven't fallen for her?? does she have a boyfriend right now?? why not try and confess your feelings to her?? sorry to butt in your life haha >_<

takasuryuuji

12-14-2009, 03:09 AM

Boys and girls can be friend, but in some ways they can find some feeling to each other........ so they will feel irritated to each other but they can always be friend.......................right?............... ...

s3cr3tb0y12

12-15-2009, 11:36 AM

I think its okay it depends on them too..If they can control there feelings xD

Soujiro Ken

02-22-2010, 12:06 PM

I believe they can be very good friends..
and still be in good terms even if the other got a partner.. XD

purplegurl

02-22-2010, 12:18 PM

Well, that could be possible...I mean I have a lot of guys friends and yet i haven't developed any romantic feelings towards them...we treat each other like brothers and sisters..we also get happy if anyone of us had another relationship from outside the peer..we constantly cheer each other on...

so i think it is really possible for a boy and a girl to continue being friends without harboring any special feelings

mlcdl

02-22-2010, 12:29 PM

Yeah..it was possible.......well it still depend to those people if they want to become friend

blackmenthol

02-22-2010, 12:31 PM

Yeah...of course

Though it will take some time and adjustment for you
but when you're okay and feeling...well...adjusted
it becomes easy for you!

And someday maybe you can be more than just friends...BESTFRIENDS! ahahaha! :)

katl91995

06-03-2010, 04:53 AM

waaaaaaaaaah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...........
i think it is possible to become good friends with the opposite sex...........
well as for me.......its even possible not to develop any kind's of romantic feelings to the opposite sex that you trust to be your best friend or friend............
i mean i have plenty of trusted friends that are girls............even my childhood best friend is a girl................yet me or she did not develop any romantic feelings............:D
well i think it depends to the boy or girl if they want to become good friends with the opposite sex..............xDD

KissXsis

06-03-2010, 05:41 AM

I think that it is possible if you and your friend have someone special already XD :D

LeonCarreon

06-03-2010, 07:00 AM

I think the Youth could be best friends but once they get a lot older the feelings will start to set in. Without realizing you'll be getting closer to him/her for the different reasons. >.< It happened to me once! I was helping out a friend with her "crush problems" then eventually she was asking me personal stuff like what time of girl do I like... Then she asked me who the girl I want at that time and so I answered her (a different girl) Then she got crushed. Eventually she told me I was the one she wants... and now we're not as close as before. :(

xiety

06-03-2010, 07:22 AM

^^ Well yeah you can be friends FOREVER when the girl said that "we are just friends" ^^
It will be ironic when the boy already have girlfriend and his childhood friend will be jealous later on ^^

Cptkurke

06-05-2010, 02:25 PM

Of course...i have a few best friends who are girls :D

ferone2ashy

06-05-2010, 02:55 PM

definitely i mean i have a few good female friends who i feel nothing for (romancewise, as friends i absolutely love them) and they definitely have no interest in me... i mean like definitely none (trust me, some1 suggested the idea of going with me to prom and the shock of this suggestion was genuine- course same thing happened to me when they suggested me askin her) but this is mostly cos we don't really think of each other in that way (they think of me as one of the girls and i think of them as one of the guys)

jekoaguado

06-05-2010, 03:06 PM

Of course! I mean i dont have a lot of friends that are girls but i have a few. It's a matter of personality actually if you can both connect with each other.
Really..maybe not just good friends but even Best friends. The only girls i'm best friends with are the girls that have the same personality as I do :D

And with the romantic feelings thing..It is very possible. The friends-to-lovers doesnt always happen unless you want to. The girls i'm friends with are either people who have the same interest with me or like the girls that my friends are courting.
And i should also say having a female friend is good. Its not all about Tough Guy thing that your set of friends are made of only males. Females make you feel different :D

kail14

06-08-2010, 01:06 AM

Of course. There are nothing different to them except their gender.

Ive seen a lot of boys and girls been good friends. XD
*also Ive seen a lot in a relationships*

nannel24

06-09-2010, 10:29 AM

It is possible for me, I have this guy best friend and he's the only guy whom I can comfortably be with. And I can't really bring myself to like him romantically, I don't know why, seriously. Even if girls run up to him, even if he's an ideal type of boyfriend. LOL. We're very close (and looks really sweet) to the extent that even the teachers think that we're together. LOL. But REALLY, I don't know why I don't feel anything about him. He constantly admits that he has a crush on me but IT IS NOT LOVE, I'm sure of it. People even pushes us to be together but I'm fine with what we are now.

notanotaku

06-09-2010, 10:34 AM

Yes. They can! Where i use to live...they even 'kiss' as a !!-greeting-!! and they don't even like each other or anything! So yes, they can be good friends and more than friends.

Snoozy19

06-09-2010, 10:38 AM

Sure they can..
without all that lovey-dovey stuff everything will work out fine.

bgurlforu

06-09-2010, 10:38 AM

i know its possible My friend aaron and i have been friends for almost 17 years with no romantically feelings what so ever.. we grew up together and had so much fun.. so its possible to be friends .. but its hard not to get those feelings because you come close to eachother and learn everything about that person..

xiety

06-11-2010, 06:28 AM

well depends on the person

either the boy or the girl just supports each other as friends no romantic development then best friends forever ^^
thats means either the boy nor the girl doesnt want to level up his/her emotion

p4pex33

06-11-2010, 09:50 AM

yes,
but if his/her bf/gf is youre friend nothing will change, but depends of different individuals

globeopinion

06-11-2010, 12:25 PM

Of course... if you share the same things in life.... and if you are good to your opposite!

SkyOrange

06-11-2010, 12:36 PM

yeah... based on personal experience yeah ^^

SH1Tmakasit

06-11-2010, 04:31 PM

Yes, coz of the fact that sone of my friends are girls

letumio

06-14-2010, 02:39 AM

i think they can be if they grew up together, otherwise theres always going to be some kind of tension i think...

akito29

06-14-2010, 02:50 AM

they can be but i think on the way one might fell for the other it will be somewhat be complicated

Lapis

06-16-2010, 05:44 PM

actually, ^^ my best friend happens to be a boy, we've been friends for a couple years now and i think of him as a brother, hes one of the bestest friends i've ever had and always will be, so yep, its possible!~

Ryuji

06-16-2010, 06:18 PM

what my wise dad said to me many weeks ago, " It is impossible to have a good friend thats the opposite sex because it always ends in bed at the end of everything" xD and i agree

nickster

07-02-2010, 02:53 PM

ofcourse they can ~! XDD
i have many girlfriends XDD ( just a friendship relation )

Bunislipper

07-02-2010, 05:00 PM

Mmm I guess in some ways you are right but I mean...Im close to loads of boys and I have a few long lasting relationships with them (as friends) I personally think all girls get along better with guys but obivously they dont wanna be like GUY GUY GUY all the time so they hang with girls as well I guess. Me meh I dont care who I hang out with I LUB EVERYONE :3

Kobowo

07-03-2010, 11:43 AM

Yes...right now I have a friend (who is a girl) that I know I like only as a friend and vice versa (since I know who she likes) and currently I'm not falling for her so I guess thats proof?

missRobin7

07-03-2010, 11:56 AM

hatsukashi dana.. I wanna be in elem again. We're the same scasia.

yeah, here too...elem. again...:D o% malice..

:)) boys and girls friend? in my perception right now? impossible, but ive been searching ways for it to be possible..
but i just cant.. i had trauma experiences with having friends in the opposite sex...:D
so i keep myself safe...:D

bloodyrein

07-03-2010, 12:07 PM

Yes they could be good friends because first some of my friends are best friends with the opposite sex

Usually the point of them of being best friends is that they like the friend of their best friend so they ask each other for advices and looking for the point of view of the opposite sex in a certain situation and how would they react

IndI311

07-03-2010, 12:15 PM

sure..
...never saw problems with that...
..and isnt it normal..
.or cant we boys be frineds with girls.
..

xiety

08-01-2010, 12:08 PM

if possible boys and girls must be good friends

to develop social interaction so that you can understand the way they think

valentin09

08-09-2010, 03:08 PM

Of course its possible. For example i'm a boy but i have more female friends

Graveflower

08-09-2010, 04:12 PM

Simply yes, they can. My best friend is female and neither of us have romantic feelings for one another. And we live together.

musikalles

08-09-2010, 05:17 PM

Well, that's not a very black-and-white, clean-cut thing to answer... if you get any two people in any kind of relationship and compare what they really think of the other, someone's going to care more and someone's going to care less. It's true that people of the opposite sex naturally flirt when they interact with eachother even when they have no interest of pursuing that person. they don't even realize that what they do without thinking could be unspeakably charming to someone else. Sometimes friendliness is mistaken for attraction. but what's the harm in that, really? Because it's fun to be on good terms with someone. regardless of what those terms are. But what about gay people? Lines are blurred there all the time between attractions and unrequitted love with same sex friends... and as long as you are just yourself with your friends and you're all just enjoying the company of others sincerely and fairly, just enjoy having and keeping your friends. It's not that complicated.

rakusa

08-09-2010, 07:03 PM

of coarse!!
i have many guy friends (girls too) and i don't have any special feelings for them!!
>.<

jadeliciousdk

08-09-2010, 09:26 PM

I assume that we aren't just talking face book friendish style here. But real close friends, perhaps not best friends term, but cutting it pretty darn close.

In that case I would say yes. It is possible to be friends without there being any romantic feelings involved, however you can't make sure that such feelings won't occur down the line.
Actually I find it likely that at least one of the friends will develop romantic feelings for the other. The degree of these feelings can vary, from a mild crush that doesn't hurt anyone to the big head over heels in love that usually leaves the poor bloke heartbroken.

We can't really control who well fall in love with so why not an old friend? At least you'll know the person and what you are getting yourself into. Perhaps a little less exciting, but probably a lot more safe and healthy ^^

eliemusica

08-09-2010, 11:49 PM

actually, i have several male friends and i'm really close to them to the point that they consider me as bff. and i don't have feelings towards them and vice versa.its kinda scary a bit to think the idea of falling in love with any of them because,.....i think it will be too weird hahaha....so, yes, boys and girls can be good friends without involving any lovey dovey feelings whatsoever ;)

IrishMonkee

08-10-2010, 04:24 AM

It's totally possible to have friends of the other gender and not have feelings for them or them for you. But like jadeliciousdk says, "you can't make sure that such feelings won't occur down the line.
Actually I find it likely that at least one of the friends will develop romantic feelings for the other. The degree of these feelings can vary, from a mild crush that doesn't hurt anyone to the big head over heels in love that usually leaves the poor bloke heartbroken."

I had this happen to me, my family spent a lot of time with other families so much that we developed a sorta extended family all thanks to bowling. lol I think it had to do with the fact that we were all military families and we treated the other family as if they were a part of our own. So I had lots of mom, dads, brothers, and sisters. Well one of those "sisters" developed feelings for me because we were always around each other. We bowled on the same team, went to the same schools, traveled with each other, etc. But I never developed those feelings for her because I saw her as a sister and nothing more. It was kinda hard and awkward to receive her feelings and to reject them at the same time. But to this day we're all still good friends and keep in touch especially her and my real sister.

venabre

08-10-2010, 11:35 PM

Of course it's posible, I'm a living example of it, most of my friends have actually been guys and my best friend now is one two and I'm sure neither of us has romantic feelings for the other, and we've been together for almost 6 years now

eliemusica

08-11-2010, 12:07 AM

well, i think its possible to have special-best-male-friends without any special feelings or whatsoever.in fact, i have several male friends and we are really close to the point of being bffs hahahaha...they are such dorkies, and yeah, i love them much but in the matter of falling in love kinda love. and they also feel the same. we are just one big ugly bestest friends group hahahahaha....XD

Rylsouske

08-11-2010, 10:35 AM

Yep. In friendship sex doesn't matter at all. As long as you trust each other, then that's enough already to be called "good" friends.

lolkaitlin

08-12-2010, 12:51 AM

Hmm. I was about to say, "Well, one of my really good friends is a guy.." buuut he's gay. Soo.

However, taking into consideration that a lot of my good friends are girls, it made me realize that the most recent guy that I've gotten very close to has kinda become a love interest. Lmfaao. :\

To be honest though, I find it extremely possible that two people of the opposite sex can become good friends without 'sexual' or 'lovey' feelings interrupting their friendship. I can't say it's true for me though - most of the guys I'm good friends with have been somewhat intimate with me at one point or another.

marvinpura21

08-15-2010, 05:49 AM

I agree because I have friends some of them are girls but we don't have romantic feelings... But there is one time I almost fall but still friendship prevails..

blackmenthol

08-16-2010, 02:31 PM

I guess it all depends on YOU whether you want it to stay as friends. But I'm a guy...so you really can't hide something for someone for very long without some of your friends noticing...it's hard, I admit, but it either works out or it turns a complete 360 on you.

Tip: It may not be much but just "Keep it REAL"...cliched right?!...but it's TRUE. :))

onepiece

10-28-2010, 04:56 AM

yes it is very possible between boys and girls being very good friends...cuz i know friends like this....

MishyCandy

11-04-2010, 09:31 AM

It's normal XD
A guy and a girl in friendship ;)
I often see it...
I guess it's ok

wanderernyth

11-04-2010, 10:40 AM

i think it is possible to an opposite sex to have a good relationship without having any romantic feelings getting involved!
but mostly either one or both of them will develop deeper feelings to another!
so it can be said that it will really depend on ones perceptions/ideals & to those person who are involved!

GBUA! <^ ^>

hakitser

11-04-2010, 05:03 PM

yeas i have alot of female friends X3

Rumic

11-04-2010, 05:32 PM

Do you think that its possible for two people of the opposite sex to be good friends without any romantic feelings?
I think its possible to be good friends, but one party will eventually feel more for the other. Also if one of the two get a partner, the really good friendship will have to come to an end, where they will still be friends, but not as close as before

i agree with you, at first having good friendship is possible. if one of the party manage to fall in love with a third party. the original friendship may feel awkward. unless of course the person in question doesn't feel anything to the person who fell in love. he/she only feels maybe just platonic or just being "friendly".

AnimeYuio

11-04-2010, 05:38 PM

i think it is possible but most manga and anime situations don't agree T_T

ShanDG18

11-05-2010, 01:26 PM

Hehe... cheesy stuffs... of course they do. Boys and Girls CAN be good friends ^_^

clipse026

11-05-2010, 10:14 PM

Only if you don't feel attracted to the girl, or if both of you have your own romantic relationships. Otherwise people get close and it almost always leads to some deeper feelings.

dab117

11-05-2010, 11:16 PM

of course, it is possible. but if you are not careful, doing something may raise a "flag" and may cause the other party to feel something for you. like standing up to him/her, doing something special etc. But it may be a one sided feeling, but that said, it is still possible to remain as good friends. I personally have a few good female friends

rasendori700

11-06-2010, 04:58 AM

It's actually possible.. right now Im totally close with a guy classmate while I have a boyfriend..
It's totally possible...

asd2525

11-06-2010, 05:53 AM

This is a hard one. I would Like too say they can be friends but everyime I have had a friendship with a girl either me or her end up liking each other. I almost got married to my last "friend" that was a girl but life sucks and that didn't happen. Now I only have friends that are girls if they already have a boyfriend. That way I have no intention of getting feelings for her and she already has someone she's with so it works out.

Viletomb2010

11-06-2010, 09:35 AM

I have some good girl friends and Im a boy too with no romantic feelings. So it is possible to have a good friends with opposite sex.

emchii

11-06-2010, 10:05 AM

Yes, I think they could be good friends without any romantic feelings.. :) but I think that someone could not help it and fall for the other.. but I guess, having a close friend in the opposite sex would be fun. ;)
and I think the best romantic relationship is with your boy best friend . :D

Beldion

11-11-2010, 11:29 PM

Base on my and others experience, it is only possible if both the boy and the girl knows where to draw the line...

YamiYami

11-11-2010, 11:35 PM

It is definitely possible. I have seen it with my own eyes

awnaman123

11-12-2010, 07:22 AM

That thing I guess for me is kinda rare ...

because the longer the time I'm with that girl, the more I develop feelings for her ...

especially when she SMILES at me .... It's like I'm melting ... :D

WiwoYuioDesu

11-13-2010, 11:11 AM

Of course! If girls can be friends with girls, and boys can be friends with boys, why can't girls be friends with boys? :3

evil105

11-13-2010, 11:16 AM

I believe its possible!
Do we even have to prove it?!

inubazh11

11-16-2010, 05:12 PM

menisa06

11-17-2010, 03:06 AM

Of course, I have more guy friends than gal.....

pikel

11-18-2010, 12:38 AM

Wow, this is one old thread to be pulled back up. Anyways, I believe yes. My best friend all 4 years of high school was a girl. We went to different colleges though, and haven't really kept in touch sadly.

scarlet113

11-19-2010, 09:46 AM

For me its impossible because they'll just fall for each other trust me D:

just like toradora^^

Link14

11-19-2010, 03:28 PM

Its kinda hard to say whether I think so or not, it all depends on who the people are. I have a close friend who is a girl and I don't think of her as anything more then a friend and I'm positive she doesn't think of me as anything more then a friend

masterbait55

11-19-2010, 03:46 PM

@rusjj: its not possible to win in the lottery...!! only the government or higher officials who will benefit the prize in the lottery...!! they made some people under their control to win the lottery...!!^^ thats the truth behind it... they made the pot bigger so more people will try to get the prize hence giving them more money..^^
@everyone: i guess girls and boys can be friends... they just need to find their similarities and their own limits..^^