OS Diary (share your problem )

[AngelPrincess]

You guys can share your problem here . We'll try to help each other to solve your problem desu ~

If you guys are stressed , you can share your problem here desu ~

LOVE OS !!!!!!:emhh03:

[mattduy]

It should be done on a confidential level just in case someone doesn't want they're name said.
Since you suggested it, maybe we can send you private messages telling you our problems and you can answer them with or without telling our names depending on is we want to or not.

[AngelPrincess]

Its okay ~ You can do whatever you want desu ~ ^^

[jadeliciousdk]

I vote for no private mails ^^ leave it public so everyone can chip in with good suggestions :)

[OVirus53]

I agree with jadedlicious. We're all pretty much a big family here on OS, it seems.

Unless of course it's a real super sensitive and private matter that you're dealing with, but then if it's that sensitive, I'm not sure you'd want to be sharing that on the internet anyways. But that's up to you to decide.

[solidoxygen]

Hey guys, take a bite on this one!

I've been friends with this girl for two years and we have managed to stay just as friends; exactly how I like it.
However recently I found out that she likes me, and she even asked me to homecoming. Suddenly I don't enjoy being her friend anymore. Whenever I see her now, I notice that she's not very pretty, smart, or outgoing.

How should I handle this delicate situation?

In fact, if she saw this post, I would be down 1 friend. And I'm sure she'd go and cry somewhere.

[ZenNaari]

Hey guys, take a bite on this one!

I've been friends with this girl for two years and we have managed to stay just as friends; exactly how I like it.
However recently I found out that she likes me, and she even asked me to homecoming. Suddenly I don't enjoy being her friend anymore. Whenever I see her now, I notice that she's not very pretty, smart, or outgoing.

How should I handle this delicate situation?

In fact, if she saw this post, I would be down 1 friend. And I'm sure she'd go and cry somewhere.

Same thing happened to me... except it's multiple girls going with that and I spent my childhood years with them. Since we're apart, whenever there's a party (mostly religion-related) They'd always wait for me... but it's kinda like a normal harem series. Even though I don't like them, they somehow like you.

I guess in your case, since its one girl, it'll be harder. even though she likes you, just as much as possible ignore her advances on you if you don't find her pretty or whatever anymore. You can stay good freinds as long as you ignore her advances... if pinoy, ignore as much human contact as possible.

If this doesn't help, watch a harem anime series or romance/drama anime for consult.

[ZenNaari]

My problem seems a bit minor but I'll appreciate if you help me at the least bit.

There's this new kid at school in our class... he immidiately fits in for reasons I don't know of. Despite his "SMALL" height, he carelessly insults people anywhere, anywho, anywhen. He even beats people up and because of his appearance no one seems to fight back.

He also does that to me and I'm completely annoyed by his actions. I already sent him to the guidance counselor TWICE and all it did was amplify his damage against others including me.

Now is our winter break, I don't know what do when classes start again. If I beat him up and give him a taste of bloody hell, I'LL be sent to the guidance plus a chance to get expelled for major injury. If I consult the guidance counselor again, they might not believe me anymore, and even if they do, they won't expel him because of the high PAYMENT for tuition fee he's giving.

Of course, altrenatively I can do nothing but it'll be harder and I might even turn into a bloody demon (potentially) before the school year ends.

[ratratrat098]

The word "ignore" has lots of meaning.

Just tell her that you just treat her as a friend and you will not tolerate any advances she makes on you...

You have to be honest with yourself...

[globeopinion]

i hate my groupmates they are so bum and stuck up... they dont have effort to help me in our project.. here's the thing we have a project in animation... and they dont even offering any help and they are complaining that they dont have grades because of they are suspended last week... wtf its not my problem anymore... until now they are making excuses f*ck them... and today is the submission of our animatix scheme...


sorry for being rude today.... im in a bad mood... well just sharing....

http://otaku-streamers.com/os_signature.php?id=11927

[Bindu1000]

Solid : All you can do is allow natural attrition to set in (if that's the right word). Slowly introduce a distance and let it grow till you drift apart. It will be easier for you (that an outright confrontation) and easier on her.

You do however run the risk of losing the friendship. However, after a while there is also a possibility she will lose interest and thereby go back to being friends.

Like I said in one of previous threads (which so many opposed) its very hard being very close friends with the opposite sex. One or the other ends up developing feelings for the other (I am not talking about general friends - but good friends you spend a lot of time hanging out with)

ZenNaari : Your problem is not minor, matter of fact its more complicated that most others coz there as the outcome is highly variable. There are three ways I can suggest
1) Talk to him. If you try to be stern or angry he will react and try to bug you more, so make it as a joke like " You do that one more time and I will cut you ***** off" , while grinning cheerfully.
The make a very serious complaint to the office. Even if you are 100% sure no one is gonna do anything - make a formal, written complaint. Then repeat it again a week or so later. This is a protection coz in the event you snap and kick his butt, you can always say "I asked for help but no one listened and I lost it"

2) Ignore him 100%.
Whatever he does, whatever he says, pretend he doesnt exist. People who annoy and irritate and act as downright pain's in the butt do it for the attention. Take that away and he will find another victim

3) Heap fiery coals on his head.
Treat him really, really nice. Be extra kind to him and go out of you way to be sweet. It will either confuse the hell out of him or make him feel guilty. Sometimes kids who act like this are having other problems and its all a defense mechanism. Maybe he gets bullied or beat up at home. Acting nice towards him may make realise there is a better way to act

However - only you will know what may or may not work.

Gambatte to you both *bows*

[darkpoetry]

@solidoxygen, I think its important to make it clear so she can move on. Like a lot of people here post about not having a clear sense of if the person likes them or not. It keeps them hanging and their friends keep cheering them on and trying to support them. I don't know the whole stituation but I personally like straight forward clear relations.

@Zenaari

I kinda have a different opinion from what Bindu suggested

First off, you sent him to the guidance counselor???. That aint going to do anything, just shows your afraid of doing things directly because youll get in trouble. No way in hell are you going to get his respect if your going to tell the teachers. I dont know how it works in your school, but back when I was in highschool you dont give names. Even if you got jumped or beatup, you dont give names unless it gets real serious. No one ever told on some else. The office is only if you are 100% sure they are going to take action.

Once you tell, hes basically going to harress you enough that it pisses you off but so he wont get in trouble. (chuck paper and pencils at you, that kind of stuff)

The first thing is to show you aint playing his games. The kids a joke, don't get all serious from a joke. Hes poking around looking for reactions, dont give him the ones he wants, you play it calm. What hes doing is real stupid, hes not your equal, hes not worth your time and attention. Give it a week, naturally the kid is going to stop messing with you.

This is highschool, not middle school, talking to him directly will most likely 9/10 times land you in a fight with a kid like that. This isnt negotiation we are talking about. Threatening him will only provoke him because he wants to see how far you are willing to go. Threatening will only show that you are taking him seriously. Its a battle of wit. Once you threaten, its basically saying you WANT to escilate the situation. You intemidate without threatening. You look down on him.

What these dumb***es are scared of is public humliation. If he messes with you, you dont take him seriously. You dont even talk to him directly you say real slow to the people around you "Pffff, is this kid serious? This kid thinks hes funny"
If he gets pissed then you just say keep cracking jokes.
Usually though, from my experience they try not to show they are getting pissed. Instead its a measure of wit and from there things slowly cool off and usually they leave each other alone. They are looking for amusement, not trouble.

If you dont want to make comments, thats ok, just look like "wtf is this kid trying to do" but not angry or agitated. Its more like showing you are NOT affected by his attempt to provoke, but you are affected by his immaturity.

Best thing to do is always hang out with someone. B****es like him only mess with kids that are alone because kids like him like to feel like they are the majority. He picks on one kid and he feels like hes got power. Get two people to ignore what hes doing and hes going to feel like a retard.

**also I dont recomend COMPLETELY ignoring him. Thats way way too typical and naive, works maybe in elementry school, not in highschool. Ignoring also usually suggests fear. They are smart enough to know you are trying to ignore them so they will keep pushing. Its not the first time they are messing with people. They are looking for toys. Your more human than put up with their bull****. Show him you got charactor, show him you got friends and he will leave you alone

[takasuryuuji]

"My problem is my self........................."
"What is my purpose in life, my goal, where is the real me.....do I exist, how can I find the answers to my questions, why am I born...........?"

"You must hate it... you must hate this world where you were born in to...you must this world which have never welcomed you...you don't need to love or to be love...you don't exist...

"Don't make enemies... they'll stab your back...
Don't make friends... they'll stab your heart...
You don't need to be loved...
You don't need to loved...
You do don't exists...

[Soujiro Ken]

my current problem:
MONEY..
especially that summer vacation is approaching nearer and nearer now..
no school, less allowance.. T.T

[KissXsis]

I hate my friends.
they left me behind

[sotong88]

For me in school i have to act like a mature person and change my actions alot from last time so that i would not be bullied and will be stronger... And i really hate it cause till now i dont noe my real self... sigh...

[Keir06]

I vote for no private mails ^^ leave it public so everyone can chip in with good suggestions :)

yep... Good.

:emhh09: :emhh09: :emhh09:

[MioAkiyama]

may 12 2010
wishes to summon ritsu
thumb hurts
reads yuri mangas
whats with my life? O_o?

[eliemusica]

i need a tid bit of motivation. something that i can look forward to in the future. i'm really bored....FIND ME A BOYFRIEND!!~XD

[enzo91]

^thats wierd. i was looking for a girlfriend in the shoutbox a while ago. that was only partly serious. (20% i guess?)

my problem is.. academics. i hate my school life. i failed my biology 12 class. guess what? i'm a bio major. stuff like that DOES NOT happen to bio majors. on top of it all, my ex-girlfriend is going to show up at our batch party on the 26th. why? to try and flirt again? to make me jealous? i've gotten over her, but i wish she would just LEAVE ME ALONE!

[katl91995]

waaaaaaaaaah!!!!!!!!!!!!..........
all the people in the world have problems.............
there's no one in the world that has no problems...........
:D..................

[LeonCarreon]

I'm in a really lucky situation but because of my shyness I'm ruining it...

My crush had a crush on me and now we're like... CLOSE... but then I often goof off because I'm shy to her. >.<

[jekoaguado]

Well everytime I get close to a girl i tend to screw up or destiny screws me up.

Like one time I liked a girl and when i was starting to get serious into courting her...I found out she was in love with one of my best friends.
There are a lot of pressures around me when i like someone and its either I screw up because of these pressures or the situations just gets really really messed up for some certain...

Just wanted to share

[Snoozy19]

Well, its not really a problem anymore.
I'm finally over my wacky reason to be all timid and wimpy.
Knowing that there's nothing to be afraid about is a relief because I had that problem for as long as I can remember.
communication with others have really opened my mind to what the world can offer and what i can do to make myself more useful.
I even recycle trash sometimes but its still a working habit so I'm not sure if I could change that quickly.
But I guess only time will tell.. :3

[Viletomb2010]

I will just share my problem here.

My father and mother have a fight/quarrel last three years and until now my mother cannot forgive my father. I know that my father is in fault in this situation since my mother caught him already. I tried my best to keep them in touch with each other. I hope someday my mother can forgive my mother so that we can have a happy family.