How do you not go insane when waiting for a response?

[OVirus53]

I'm sure I'm not the only one that suffers from this problem.

I sent someone a message asking if they wanted to hang out sometime soon about half a week ago, and haven't gotten a reply yet. I'd send another message in case they forgot, or didn't notice it, but I don't want to come off as a pest or desperate for attention (which, truly, I am), in case they have read it, and are just thinking about it, so I continue to wait.

I figure I'll give it a full week since the message before I send another one, but in the meantime...

How do you not go insane while waiting for a reply? I'd like to hear some input on what you guys do to ignore the fact that you haven't gotten a reply.

Me? Well, obviously I sit in a corner, grind my teeth and feel irritated. But I'm trying not to.

:emhh22:

[ShadowsLiyte]

spam em! :D

nah jk.. I'm very patient but if its urgent ill contact them in any way i can until they answer..but checking your email, instant messaging, phone and cell phone and finding messages is a little weird o.o

[kaifox]

well Shadow is right and if you really want to see that person badly contact him/her in every way you can hahaha >_<

[darkpoetry]

you burn the word "HANG" on their front lawn

orrrr

you can invite another friend and get that friend to contact that person
be like "Hey lets hang out, oh and let ______ know too, I'm going to finish up HW now"

[OVirus53]

Well, I think that method defeats the whole "not being a pest approach", but I guess that does incite a response.

o_o

Also, grats on purple you two.

@darkpoetry: yeah, burning "HANG" on the lawn will go over REAL well! Funny, though.

[kaifox]

try any method you want (if you really want their attention that is).. well another method is you try to tell him/her that "i will die in boredom without you") BTW is that person someone you love or like mind if i ask..

[OVirus53]

try any method you want (if you really want their attention that is).. well another method is you try to tell him/her that "i will die in boredom without you") BTW is that person someone you love or like mind if i ask..

<_<

>_>

Well, I was gonna skip bringing that up in this thread, and leave it as neutral ground, but since you asked, yeah.

:emhh01:

[darkpoetry]

actually know that i think of it I get this situation often when contacting my professors or TA or college offical.
Like I wanted to add a course but I needed permission within 2 days. One days goes by and no reply so I send another email but still no reply, last day I went straight to the office.
But its not as simple with professors, you need to play it smart. You don't want to annoy them but you do need answers as quickly as possible >.<. One thing I never do is call them directly lol, even though every professor gives their phone number, I wonder how many students use it.

it would depend on how badly you need to contact them
if its a social thing its pretty tricky I guess.

If its someone you like and your asking them out on a date....
maybe you make a facebook event "Date with _your_name_"
and invite her to the event

idk

[Capone3830]

actually.. in my opinion...

just phone her!^^

that way she has to answer immediately and if you speak with a person the chance is higher that she will tag along because you are more motivated than just reading a message "lets go to the bistro at 11 am on saturday" or something.

[OVirus53]

@darkpoetry: Yeah, I had that problem once with the college professor also at one point. I found myself in the wrong class (I had accidentally applied for a Business ADMINITRATION class instead of Business INFORMATION SYSTEMS class of the same number), and had to contact the professor of the other class to get into that one, and it seemed like forever before I got a response. All in all, I ended up missing the first week of that class because of that mess up.

But on the second note: let's not get hasty with the dating stuff! I honestly just want to hang out, and maybe give her a Christmas present off of the Christmas list she posted on her Facebook page.

[kaifox]

go go go OVirus you can do it... good luck

[darkpoetry]

go go go OVirus you can do it... good luck

Ya OVirus, good luck with that one :emh28:










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I agree with your method, in this situation maybe a direct contact wouldn't be ideal... but phone call would probably be good. I guess your not inviting anyone else because it would be awkward if you only got her a present and no one else one...

Also:
once you start studdering you must say in a deep voice *cough* wrong number *click*
then call again in about 3 hours

**serious did that once, was expecting the more likely situation where a family member picks up then I ask if shes home but instead she picked up directly. I knew it was her but the lines automatically came out "Is ah... is ah...is.... .... *deep voice* ah sorry wrong number" *click*

[Bindu1000]

I would go with Cap and just give her a call and pretend like you were just checking if she got your sms. There is a distinct possibility she either never got it or if she was someone like me, procrastinating on how to reply.

Dont ask if on the call if she wants to hang out - just say hi, ask her if she got your sms and then dont wait too long for an answer - just make small talk about something else - maybe something that happened or a mutual friend you met. That way there is no pressure for her to say anything and it will make her comfortable. even asking something like "So how are you? and what are you doing?" can make it awkward if she is figuring out what to say.

But make the call - then you will know for sure if she got your sms and if after a day or so you still dont get a reply then you know she is prob not interested and you can move on

[Ephenyan]

contact the person by any means possible. that should make you forget to go insane
even if you are to call a pigeon, spam their inbox, mass ringing on their phone, or even to to their house myself
meh. technically im not the pest, THEY are being the pest in my opinion
(especially if it's an important meeting)

[darkpoetry]

contact the person by any means possible. that should make you forget to go insane
even if you are to call a pigeon, spam their inbox, mass ringing on their phone, or even to to their house myself
meh. technically im not the pest, THEY are being the pest in my opinion
(especially if it's an important meeting)

*cough* stalker *cough*
haha, jk

thats what I would do too if its someone I know well
but if its someone you want to get know well its good to give a good first impression

looking at it from her point of view, it could be that she doesnt know what to reply (maybe she forgot or shes making sure shes free that day) and now that its been awhile, its awkward for her to reply

i'm sure you already know her well enough to make a call right?

[ShadowsLiyte]

Well, I was gonna skip bringing that up in this thread, and leave it as neutral ground, but since you asked, yeah.

:emhh01:

oh..in that case, no spam.lol

because with a girl you like

spam isnt spam to them anymore

spam is stalking ._.

[OVirus53]

I would go with Cap and just give her a call and pretend like you were just checking if she got your sms. There is a distinct possibility she either never got it or if she was someone like me, procrastinating on how to reply.

Dont ask if on the call if she wants to hang out - just say hi, ask her if she got your sms and then dont wait too long for an answer - just make small talk about something else - maybe something that happened or a mutual friend you met. That way there is no pressure for her to say anything and it will make her comfortable. even asking something like "So how are you? and what are you doing?" can make it awkward if she is figuring out what to say.

But make the call - then you will know for sure if she got your sms and if after a day or so you still dont get a reply then you know she is prob not interested and you can move on

The one thing I don't get is that she came up with the idea in the first place. At the end of her Christmas list she posted on Facebook: "Also just hanging out and watching movies together is awesome" I'm just trying to work with an idea presented to me.

Am I missing something here?
:emhh18:

[darkpoetry]

The one thing I don't get is that she came up with the idea in the first place. At the end of her Christmas list she posted on Facebook: "Also just hanging out and watching movies together is awesome" I'm just trying to work with an idea presented to me.

Am I missing something here?
:emhh18:

oh shoot! you got something going for you :emh24:
keep trying!
you got somewhere to start, just start up a conversation about which movies shes seen and which youve seen. find one that you guys didnt see (or pretend like you didnt see one that she didnt see) and just be like "hey, lets go see it" :emhh30:

i can see it going real smooth


.....
hopefully

[vaporeon200]

Well... That's a problem isn't it?
Anxiety can drive you insane that's for sure...

So try calming yourself down and think of something else to do
for the mean time...

Why not try a direct approach?
Instead of calling or texting....

She maybe more responsive if you ask her in person.... :emh26:

[OVirus53]

oh shoot! you got something going for you :emh24:
keep trying!
you got somewhere to start, just start up a conversation about which movies shes seen and which youve seen. find one that you guys didnt see (or pretend like you didnt see one that she didnt see) and just be like "hey, lets go see it" :emhh30:

i can see it going real smooth


.....
hopefully

I know neither of us have seen Pulp Fiction... Though finding a place to rent that might be tough, two video stores in the area closed down recently, and I'm not very familiar with any others. I should probably just think of something else.

But I don't think I should do the suave monkey thing. She might fall over laughing at me!

@vaporeon: right now I was thinking a little Modern Warfare 2 might help keep my mind busy. Also, the scooter monkies are awesome~!
:emh26:

[takasuryuuji]

go you can do it
go and phone her... you can do IT..........

[kimu07]

talk to her personally...
if you cant...
call her..
:D

[Soujiro Ken]

yalk to her personally...
if you cant...
call her..
:D

yey!! so that's why you're always calling me.. XD

[bobobear]

the gift does not come before the date... on that note just call her up directly and ask her, instead of just texting... don't know with you guys but I really don't feel the need to answer a text message. So if you want an answer then ask the question. a question like "do you want to hang out?" with no other details is kinda hard to answer to if she doesn't know why you are asking in the first place.

[flamezaber]

lol I also go crazy for a response. I'm too impatient o_o xD


you burn the word "HANG" on their front lawn


lmao hell of a way to get a person's attention xD

Damn..

[pikel]

Personally, I'd just call them up and ask what they're doing, and if they're free do they want to hang out. Sending texts or other messages lacks that personal touch and makes them a LOT easier to ignore. If you get them on the phone you WILL get a reply.

Edit: I guess me and Bobobear are in agreement on this then :D.

[KissXsis]

Spam them :D

[MioAkiyama]

i go stream animes and w8 ..... lolz at least your occcupied right ^_~

[mlcdl]

You might try to do something that you enjoy while waiting cause waiting that long enough for someone to go crazy

[AnkokuRyuu]

well first of all it's ok to send another message just in case they didn't notice, it's rude not to respond to a person so they probably overlooked it by accident, too not go insane just forget you sent it and just check your messages like you normally would

[lastshin]

I just w8 with silently but when that someone is in front of me and kept me waiting for a lont time.... well you know hahaha

[xiety]

I will kill a mosquito to keep me entertain while waiting for a reply

[Riou123]

try listening to some music it can calm you down...

when i wait for a reply i just listen to music...

Music = Calmness XD

[qwertyuiop10]

i just sit around with a electric fan

or just in bed doing many things...





or i say

~i hate waiting for nothing~

[Snoozy19]

Really, we get insane waiting for a reply?!?!?!

After I make a thread, I just leave it alone for about 10 minutes then see for a reply.

Come on, it's only a thread. It's not like the topic is perverted or something...hahahahah

but when I make a mistake in the thread, I really panic...lol

[Soujiro Ken]

I recently discovered a new tactic for this. I tell myself "you're already insane so no matter how long you wait for the response, you still won't go insane, coz you're already insane." and it's effective. I don't get bored when waiting for someone's response. XD

[Jarsha]

For me? I don't really run into this problem to often, I more or less hate texting and talking to a piece of plastic in order to hear someones voice. If I need something I usually just show up and ask... not that hard xD just keep ringing the door bell or pounding the door until they open up.

[tormenteh]

Im patient too but it can be very angry when people to that its really annoying D: